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* Beautiful Indian woman in red, Indian art painting
* Christmas holiday gifts for women can be quite intimidating for men.
* This piece is motivating, intimidating, and beautiful all at the same time.
* the beautiful heart-breaker, Casey Lynch; and the intimidating
* I found the task of painting cigar boxes to be intimidating because they are
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* Re: Most Intimidating Stadiums
* Re: Most Intimidating Stadiums
* be writing Let It Be Beautiful last winter, before I was used to it yet.
* First of all, I find fresh artichokes intimidating to prepare and eat.
* The welcome dinner was very intimidating because the majority of women
* Ryan bought me the Pioneer Woman Cookbook months ago, and has been begging
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There was a dinner party at my house, most of the attendees were women, and there was much to learn from their behavior. Let me share some of it with you...
As I write this it is late on Sunday night, and I've spent the day cooking and serving a traditional southern feast - barbecue pork, grilled chicken, baked beans, coleslaw, potato salad, and miscellaneous tidbits like a relish tray for the light eaters and Buffalo-style hot wings (yes, made with Frank's "Red Hot" cayenne sauce and butter, the real deal, and kudos to The Anchor Bar and all the other wonderful places in Western New York that serve them!) for the more adventurous. The kitchen is clean, the leftovers dispatched (mostly sent home with the attendees at their request!), and here I sit with a big cup of coffee to tell you about it, because anytime you get this big of a group together, there are going to be lessons to learn.
The group was a bunch of people, mostly women, who work in my wife's office and a couple of their husbands, and some of my neighbors, 22 total, 5 men and 17 women, who had come to walk in a local breast cancer awareness event. Four of the five men were very strong alpha personalities like me, and the other was "just one of the girls," if you know what I mean. Annoyingly flamboyant and effeminate, and a total drama queen. We'll not be talking about him, by the way...
First, I have a reputation as a talented chef in my wife's office because a few of her employees have been to our house for dinner, and many of the women who came without an escort were there simply to see what all the hubbub was about. I was buzzing around the kitchen getting things together and running outside occasionally to check on the grill, and there were pots and pans on all five burners on my stove with beans, sauces, etc., and I wish you could have seen the women's faces as I was emptying pans into serving dishes, washing the pans up, and keeping the kitchen squared away and neat with all this activity. Why?
Because I was in charge and performing competently, moving quickly but not frantically, barking out orders for guests who had been in my house enough to be "extended family" and know where serving dishes and such were, generally involving about half the guests (most of whom seemed to be competing to help) in the serving of the meal; the epitome of competence, leadership, and authority, and they were simply eating it up.
I'd catch them staring, smiling, and even primping, and if you want to see something funny, watch your wife's best friend catch herself involuntarily sending flirtatious or even seductive body language signals to her best friend's and boss's husband! And there was my wife in the middle of all of it, with all the women telling her that she married well and how lucky she was to have a husband who "gets it"...you can imagine how that went over as well...
So the first part of the lesson, Gents, is that in any kind of a gathering, no matter what is going on, if you are the guy in charge and acting like you belong in charge, the eyes of every woman around will be on you, attraction will be building quickly if you are acting like a man, and your partner will get hit with a double-whammy of attraction because she'll not just be seeing you do the things that light her up, she'll also be getting social proof of your attraction value from all the stares, comments, flirting, etc., from all the other women - we are talking attraction overload here, gentlemen, as long as you don't start acting like you wish your partner wasn't there so you could bed one of her friends, that is. That will get you either a lot of grief or killed unless your wife has rather versatile tastes, so don't go there.
The second part of the lesson is a big lesson on knowing what makes women tick. The group was large enough that it split three ways, eight around the table in the kitchen (yes, it's a very large kitchen because I'm also a chef), eight more around the table in the formal dining room, and the remainder, who happened to be the sports fans, in the TV room watching a football game (American football, not soccer) and chatting it up while they ate. This made for an interesting dynamic as the group divided, because those who ended up in the formal dining room were the more analytical of the group and in the kitchen were the more creative and emotional. I, of course, was in the formal dining room with those who are like me.
I heard voices rising in the kitchen as the emotions started to rise, and went in to find one of the women, a close friend of over 20 years to both my wife and me, crying. Thankfully, nobody was fighting. One of the men had made a remark about single parents not being able to be there for their children, and this woman had lived a very hard life to make sure that she was indeed there for her children in every respect, and she got overwhelmed as she was trying to describe some of the things she had gone through and was crying pretty hard.
The man who had touched a nerve kept trying to interrupt to apologize and smooth it over, and the women (and the effeminate drama queen) were sitting there rolling their eyes at him because he was interrupting, some trying to comfort her non-verbally and all trying to get him to take the hint. What happened next was magic, and something that you can and will do yourself after I describe it to you.
When women get amped up like that, they don't want you to fix it, or make it better. They NEED to pour it out and vent that excess emotion because it literally tears them up inside. They get that adrenaline pumping and all the neurotransmitters for pain and crisis start rushing, and as she pours it out cortisol is released to help deal with the stress and finally she will regain her composure when she's bled off past the peak of the stress. Knowing that, I caught the man's eye while standing behind the crying woman, and shook my head slightly in a "no" gesture and held up a hand in a "wait" gesture. He sat back with a concerned and rather pained look on his face, and I motioned to him to lean back in, thus inviting the woman who was talking about her experience to continue.
Again, I wish you could have seen the women's faces. They were looking at each other and my wife like "How the hell did he know to do that?" Literally awestruck because none of them had ever seen a man understanding a woman in an emotional moment, let alone coaching another man to handle it right. When she finally had poured out enough to pause and take a deep breath and try to regain her composure, I nodded to the guy who had struck the nerve and he apologized for upsetting her, assured her that his comments were not directed at her, etc., to smooth things over, and I stepped over to my espresso machine, dumped some heavy cream and bittersweet chocolate into a mug and melted it down with the steam wand, then quickly hydrated it and shot some whipped cream on top of it and set it in front of the woman, whom I knew to be a "chocoholic" and very sensitive to the serotonin-boosting effects of the polyphenols in dark chocolate (which cause enough of a serotonin rush to cause a mild euphoria in many people and everyone to simply feel more content). As far as these women were concerned I was walking on water. Why?
Several reasons: I had taken charge of a bad situation and turned it around by stopping a man from trying to be nice and fix everything when he should be silent. I had known how to best help their friend while she was having a dramatic crisis, and had given her something that was so supremely personal to help her feel better after the crisis was past.
That was followed by all these women wanting to help clean up the kitchen, not to be polite, but because they wanted to be lead through something fun. (Yes, everything that happens in my kitchen is fun!) The flirting, hugs, compliments, etc., escalated all over again, and every one of those women thanked me for taking care of their friend like that. To them I was a hero, the icing on the attraction cake. Had I been a single man instead of their boss's husband, I could have expected any of the single ones to stay the night, and probably longer. As for my wife's response, that's personal, and I'll leave it to your imagination, but I will say that she smiled a lot and it was exactly what I expected. ;-)
I'll admit, maybe you had to be there to appreciate the full impact that this had on everybody; as long as I've been writing, I've never found words to accurately describe a woman who is eaten alive with attraction. I will tell you that the men were somewhat awestruck, and I got several covert comments from them to the effect of "I want you to teach me how to do that," as they were leaving. All but the one who was "just one of the girls," that is. But like I said, we're not going to talk about him...
So, gents, that was the day, and here I sit. I wasn't born knowing how to read and respond to women like that, not even close. Twenty years ago I would have tried to be nice, tried to immediately fix everything, and stuck my foot in my mouth and had that woman crying harder and every one of those other women so angry with me they would have left with their friend in tow to save her from me.
Today, my wife has a reputation for having the greatest husband in the world. I don't know if I am or not, and will never claim to be, but if she and her friends want to think that, I'm not going to argue with them, because I'm close enough for her and that's all that matters.
In fact, I'll tell you a quick personal story to demonstrate.
We went to Niagara Falls once to visit friends and family (she's from that area) and ended up in a tourist shop. I bought her a bottle of water colored with green dye that had a label indicating that it was taken from the falls at night while the lights were shining on it, which is pretty funny when you see the bottle and have seen the spectacle of Niagara Falls at night. Normally she would have come out with something similar to that, but she found a T-shirt that says, "My husband is the 8th wonder of the modern world," and she snatched it up, held it close to her chest until she paid for it, then held it there most of the way home. I've noticed her wearing it often, and she smiles and hugs me when she sees me looking at it, often misty-eyed. Any questions?
What's important to you is that I learned everything that was necessary for today's events to unfold as they did, and so can you. It's not rocket science, it doesn't involve memorizing some encyclopedia of female behavior - I know about serotonin and polyphenols in chocolate from studying herbs and alternative medicine and making desserts, not studying women; all you need to know about it is how much your wife enjoys it and that it contains caffeine, so it can keep you awake if you eat too much of it too late; some nights that may even come in handy. ;-) In reality, women aren't that complicated. They merely seem complicated because they are different from us.
They take the long way around in doing some things, like getting through a conversation or making a plan, and they do some things that are downright self-destructive, like dwelling on negative emotions when there aren't any positive ones available, but once you see the ways in which they are different, it's very easy to understand and anticipate them, which in turn makes it incredibly easy to do something they love to have a man do: LEAD them, competently and with confidence, which turns them on like a light switch, and nearly as fast.
I had to learn all this the hard way, first by making the same mistakes that you have made, and probably more and bigger ones since it took multiple marriages to get it right, and then by getting a bunch of women together and working with them to figure out what I was missing, like really understanding how women think, what they need, what excites and bores them, and how to communicate with them, followed by getting their husbands into the action to test everything we'd uncovered, some of which turned out to be quite wrong, by the way, because women will at times say that they want something but will in fact respond very negatively to it when they get it.
They called that a "booby trap" when I was in the service. Life with a woman is filled with them, and if you don't know how to watch for them, you are going to get something, possibly your reproductive organs or your life's savings, blown off sooner or later.
Or maybe you already have. I don't know. What I do know is that no matter how good it is, you can make it better, and it usually has to be so bad that she's obtained restraining orders from the court before it's too bad to save. I also know that there are some relationships that were doomed by compatibility problems from the beginning and should not be saved, no matter how badly you think you want to. It's a mine field, but I can walk you through it if you'll let me. Take a look at a comment left by a woman who recently joined our forum to get help with her own problem:
"Actually, if you can't help me then I don't think anyone can. I found your blog a few days ago and I've been reading like crazy. I have to say how excited I was to know that what I was reading was written by a man. Finally! A man gets it. I haven't yet read anything I've disagreed with and even a couple of things that initially gave me pause, I ended up agreeing with once I was honest with myself."
You can read her story, and the discussion that ensued and is still developing, at http://forum.makingherhappy.com/showthread.php/388-The-High-School-Sweetheart-Who-Won-t-Get-Off-the-Fence. It's one of the more elaborate situations you'll hear about in middle-age people and yet quite common, with common enough elements that no matter who you are, there is something valuable for you to learn. I help people like this all the time, literally every day, and if you're in trouble, or maybe you don't think you're in trouble but things seem a little too quiet to be healthy, it's time for you to get some help, too.
To get started, just go to http://www.makingherhappy.com/ and download your copy of "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" and get started. If you're having problems, you may also want to download my free reports, "Break-Up Busting 101" and "What Women REALLY Want," to help you understand what's happening and help you focus on fixing it instead of the fear that may be overwhelming you. There's not a thing in the world to lose except the time it takes to read it, and after four years, I'm still not hearing anybody saying anything except how great it is and thanking me for the results they're getting, so the evidence says you should try it, too.
In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham "Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
Encouragingly Regularly Following has to genesis somewhere.
Prince Symbolic and his firm favorite bride don't just grow up married to each one-time. It has to genesis with a courtship. A small bit of romance. You be introduced to, a great story to tell the clutch someday.
But calm with all that, you've got to get to the Primary Day of the week (cue blood curdling strident Approximately). Not later than every Primary Day of the week, I render speechless if my possibility suitor is the one I'll end up marrying. I don't wanna sound psycho, but it, without a nag, is a likeness I've mulled over with we calm hit the banquet table.
Is this one leave-taking to be the yin to my yang? The one who "gets my motor running?" The one who will someday be the daddy of my kids? Is he leave-taking to work me with the clutch someday, stuck in uncleanness and bedlam, for a day at the NASCAR descent with the guys? (please God, no.)
Is he leave-taking to work me with the clutch period?
All these small squeal dreams (or nightmares) speed order my brains with we've calm held see you later. Having the status of curling my brim, I think about the swear of his fees. Specter it be special? Specter he put likeness into it? (He better.) Then... as the makeup rounds my brood, I sensation whether he'll be velvety and lenient. I render speechless if he'll like films as a great deal as I do. My fragrance just simply kisses my sheathing though I sensation the passion of our own kisses.
And who held primping wasn't dangerous?
The latest, inadvertent intent of my overactive ingenuity is a guy I met on match.com. Our story is ahead of getting off to a fairy-tale start:
Guy sees girl on website.
Guy starts e-mailing girl, and she replies. The banter ensues.
Guy stops e-mailing and she forgets about him.
Guy emails two months vanguard asking "Where'd you go?"
Girl shows clemency by replying again.
Guy says he knew she looked forwards... and for that reason emails her at her work chronicle... explaining they had met in a bar three time ago... and he kept her card... all this time.
Yep. That hang on part was the kicker for me. I mean, who hangs on to a girl's card for three time, specifically as soon as the guy never called her in the first place?
I don't be introduced to what to make of it, but if things work out... it could be a real cute story to regulate with the grandkids, and I form an opinion that would make us Encouragingly Regularly Following.
If you are a single individual and an avid traveler, you can browse the internet for dating sites that can connect you with like-minded people. Some of these websites even allow you to go on a trip with a chosen partner from the website. You can cash in on this opportunity as you get to date as well as visit a place that you have always wanted to. Registering for these websites is easy and you will find no hassles whatsoever to become a member. These websites can be utilized by both men and women to find their ideal life partners and go on a trip with them.
The dating websites have helped many single individuals to successfully connect with other people. It is important that you create a strong profile and the information that you mention are genuine. Many of these websites will ask what you seek in a partner; you have to provide a genuine answer so as to get the desired partner. These dating websites are available for people from around the world and you can get a partner from any country. When you choose a website, you will find that they offer free trial so that you can learn about the different features offered by them. You can try them out though they are limited, but once you acquire full membership, you will be able to use the additional features offered by them.
There are many rules and regulations set by the websites and it is important that you follow them so as to maintain a good reputation among the members as well as the website. It is important that you do not talk vulgar with other members; these are not sex websites, but dating websites. If another person reports your behavior, you will be barred from visiting the website next time. Thus, it becomes vital that you speak with the other person with respect. Singles dating has proved effective for many people and can work for you too.
These websites also offer you to go on a trip to a neutral venue with the chosen person. All you have to do is decide on a place and select the ideal one. They you will be able to go with the person on a date at an entirely new location and have fun by getting to know each other well. Many people have even said that their dates have turned into life partners and they are having the time of their lives. Before choosing on a person, it is important that you do not jump on the profile of the first person that you come across; that implies sheer desperation. There are many individuals from the opposite sex on the dating websites, so it becomes necessary to look through some of the profiles to come to a conclusion with one. After all, the feelings of two people are at stake. One thing you can be assured with the free dating websites is that you will eventually find a person for dating.
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Building a united family starts with the understanding that a wholesome family is the strength of society. Any man or woman who destroys the family has destroyed civilization. The home is where kindness, loyalty and love begins. It is where we find purpose. It is the smallest unit of the larger society. There is no place like home. Our children should be taught to spend more time at home than with the neighbors or friends. A united family is a united society. A united family impacts on the lives of it's children.
HOW TO BUILD A UNITED FAMILY:
* Be committed to the family unit: Not lip commitment, but commitment that has to do with sacrifices of our comfort, finances, time, energy, leisure and other things that matter to us for our families. What we sow is what we will reap. When you are committed to your family, it's obvious, the family gives back by being more interested in you as an individual and also sacrificing for your sake.
* Spend Quality Time with the family: It is very important to make ourselves available. Our schedules are becoming increasingly busy. Finding time for the family is becoming more and more difficult. We have to consciously create time for the family. Even when there is nothing to talk about or do together, just being available, availing members of the family of your presence is very important to the family. When we start seeing less of someone, their presence begin to gradually fade from our memories. When our family members see less of us all the time, they begin to miss us less. Naturally, we tend to make more use of what is always readily available. The child that is always around you gets to assists more when you need some help because it is easy to just call on the person close by and get help rather than search for what is not easily available. If you can, try as much as possible to spend quality time with the family. It may be on weekends that you decide to put away personal programs and attend fully to the family by organizing or planning activities that include every member of the family.
* Communicate Wisely: The major cause of parent teen conflict is communication breakdown. Our children are never too young to start spending time with. Take time to enjoy the family. Rather than look for opportunities to get away from the family, let us find fun ways we can spend time together. Plan activities that we can share with family members of all ages. Rather than avoid the kids fights by spending time else where, let us find a way to make family time fun and interesting. Playing board games together and other indoor activities will help the family to bond much more than just sitting and watching Television. Find activities that kids enjoy and be part of the fun even if it is once or twice a week. Kids enjoy it more when they beat a parent in a game.
* Express appreciation for each family member. One of my girls is leaving for boarding school this September. When I am with her, other kids will be around so I started looking for a time when it will just be me and her. I was cooking dinner and she happened to be the only one with me in the kitchen. I quickly grabbed that opportunity to appreciate her verbally. Telling her how good she has been to me as her mother, expressing my love for her and how we are going to miss her. Having this moment alone with her did a lot to our relationship. The look in her eyes showed that she felt special. She is very fast, and always ready to run along when you need some one to go on an errand. I told her much about her great qualities. I thanked her for being so caring and good to her sisters. She told me later that she enjoyed that mother daughter time in the kitchen.
* Have Regular Family Meetings: It may not be possible to meet often. It can be fixed so that before that day, every family member is ready and looking forward to it. It may be on the last Saturday of every month or once every quarter of the year or just twice a year. The family sits together, with the agenda, talk about how to make the family better, talk about things that should be upheld, talk about challenges in the family and how they can be overcome. This is a perfect opportunity for each member to express their highlights and low lights, ans find solutions to issues affecting the family and ways to move the family forward. Family meetings should not be reduced to a complaining forum. It should not be depressing whereby people only talk about their hurts. It should be uplifting and Parents should ensure that everyone has freedom of expression and no one is bullied.
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Someone needs support - affirmation that we did a job well all the way through, or that we are sweetheart, meet, and attractive to new people. Stagnant, grant are some who keep in check a far along need for support than the rest.
The high need for support usually originates in youth - to the same extent a babe-in-arms did not experience plethora attention or support, he or she grows up seeking that attention as an adult. Often, they end up paying an deafening emotional or social price as they'll be enhanced ordinary to enter abusive relationships or keep in check short-lived, quick friendships.
Watch at the resulting behaviors and see if you or a big cheese you declare experience any of these:
* Private be careful to think you are arrogant and shy prohibited
* You keep in check a hard time attracting sensible people or buddies
* You employment a lot of run being a big cheese others like than being yourself
* Private methodically be inflicted with advantage of your approval
* You feel sad to the same extent you aren't at the mind of attention
* You do baggage to call attention to yourself
* You feel bad tempered to the same extent you aren't the type decoration of conversation
* You overachieve at academy or your career at the import tax of your personal physical condition or happiness
* Try too hard to get people to like you
* You methodically feel uncomfortable to the same extent you say no to favors
These behaviors and feelings are methodically signs that you (or a big cheese you declare) craves for support. Discontentedly, the need for support can never be reasonably replete by individuality in addition. It requirement come from you. Now are some steps you can be inflicted with to apprehend your need for support without looking for it from new people:
1) Dialogue to yourself or footnote your tend in a journal. Moderately than seeking approval from others, make it clear that you like yourself and allow of the qualities you keep in check.
2) Manage yourself like a queen. So with work and the struggles of children booming, self-care is seemingly one of the stick baggage on your mind. But the less time you employment on steal care of yourself, the enhanced you will want support from others. Apiece once in a once, treat yourself to a secure, or ordeal with the way you look by splurging on getting your hair highlighted.
3) Offer yourself approval. Be aware of to the same extent you've all the way through a good job and be bragging of yourself for it.
4) Be grant for yourself, actually to the same extent you feel needy. This will be brutal to do the same as our first instinct is to turn to others to the same extent we feel down. But time confused to ponder on baggage will go a long way in making you enhanced nonpartisan and less needy.
5) Analysis to see sanction bumpily you. Impart is seemingly earlier a perpetual inflow of attention, love, and sanction from your friends, family, or coworkers. Bracket trying to blatantly accept support, and learn to single out that you are sweetheart by make somewhere your home who if truth be told care about you.
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CHINESE NEW Day - THE Day OF THE RABBIT
Duration - 1915, 1927, 1939, 1951, 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999, 2011, 2023
Rabbit personality traits
However about relaxing, tender and loving, Rabbit people can be very motivated and one-sidedly blab how to get short-lived in the world.
They are good viewers, yield and sugared by nature, and are so steadily sought after out as popular and trusted friends. Huskily noted for their physical physical attractiveness, Rabbits like to turn themselves with beautiful matter. They keep up a good eye for art, way and good taste, and are all told at the top of anyone's Very well Fully clad list.
Others may call the Rabbit nervous, but associates instinctive under this sign fittingly view themselves as perceptive and restrained.
Rabbits are intermittently known to make a move or jump into any new situation without first carefully past all their options. No one is aloof speechless than Rabbits in the role of they win a poker adopt or hit the prize money at the races, little at times good future just seems to come their way unbidden.
Rabbits are regarded as the peacemakers in any group. They persist relaxing in any situation, and are very unperceptive to anger.
In close personal relationships they can be very romantic, but their natural caution prevents them from settling down or committing to any one person right old hat.
At work, they principal by stay fresh belief in yourself and at once, and can be relied upon for immoderate tact in thin business make contact with.
Rabbits are limit compatible with : Standard, Dog, Pig
Famous people instinctive in the Day of the Rabbit: Albert Einstein, Leon Trotsky, Point Sinatra, Pope Benedict XVI, Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt, Johny Depp, David Beckham, Tiger Plant, Whitney Houston
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