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"Joseph Campbell, as the popularizer of the hero's journey, has been criticized by feminist scholars for creating a somewhat lopsided and masculine view of the role of mythology in personal and cultural development. For example, in a lecture* on Joseph Campbell's chronicling of the hero's journey, Christine Downey argued the myths shared in Campbell's classic book "The Hero With A Thousand Faces "are primarily associated with masculine pubertal initiation rites, and thus fail to address feminine aspects of self and society as well as other significant transitions that occur across the lifespan. Downey said Campbell's account of the hero's journey was very inwardly directed and goal oriented, much like Jung's individuation journey. Both the hero's journey and the process of individuation are deep engagements with one's inner world and the longing for wholeness that is a significant aspect of personal and spiritual growth. Yet lacking, according to Downey, is the role of Eros" and the longing for connection "with others" that she associated with the mythologies of goddesses. Furthermore, rather than the archetypal image of the feminine divine as a great maternal figure, such as Mother Earth, Downey pointed to the multitude of roles and images goddesses and the archetypal feminine divine have taken throughout human history, including warriors, artisans, huntresses, and cosmic entities.
Posthumously, Campbell gives his rebuttal to such criticisms with the release of "Goddesses: Mysteries of the Feminine Divine". The book's editor, Safron Rossi, PhD, successfully organized materials from the Joseph Campbell Foundation, including Campbell's unpublished lectures, to relay Campbell's dynamic understanding of the archetypal themes associated with the feminine divine. In particular, Rossi identified three dominant themes Campbell associated with goddesses and the feminine divine:
* "INITIATION" into the cosmos and nature. Especially through the elemental constructs of time and space, goddesses have been a primary way of revealing the ideas of immanence and eternity, and thus existing outside the bounds of ordinary, lived experience;
* "TRANSFORMATION", most notably as guiding the life cycle from birth to death; and
* "ENERGY CONSCIOUSNESS", and developing a deep, felt sense of the aliveness of all life.
Campbell explores these themes, beginning with images of the Great Goddess from the Old Stone Age over 10,000 years ago, and continuing his exploration into the Renaissance and the portrayal of The Graces.
To fully appreciate Campbell's thesis requires studying the book's many images as much as reading its text. Dr. Rossi did an extraordinary job combining Campbell's unpublished lectures with photographs and drawings of the artifacts and antiquities he references. While reading "Goddesses", I felt as if I was spending the day in a museum devoted to the archetypal themes of the feminine divine with Campbell as curator. Because the text comes from unpublished lectures, Campbell's tone is relaxed and colloquial. I sensed his respect, if not reverence, for the qualities associated with the divine feminine, as well as his personal belief in the need to revive the feminine divine if we are to create balanced and sustainable relationships and cultures.
In "Goddesses", Campbell covers a lot of mythological history in the charming tone of storyteller. There were several parts of the book I found especially interesting, even when some of his ideas were familiar to me from his other books. For example:
o Campbell's description of the impact of the suppression of the feminine divine by Semitic mythologies, and how this changed both mythology and the world:
"And so, with these masculine Semitic mythologies, we have for the first time a separation of the individual from the divine, and this is one of the most important and decisive motifs in the history of mythology: that the eternal life and oneness with the universe are no longer ours. We are separated from God, God is separated from his world, man is turned against nature, nature is turned against man" (p. 86)."
o The connections he made between the feminine divine and the story of Christ:
"Going back at least nine thousand years to the early agriculture of the Near East and Old Europe, we have a tradition of the power of the Goddess and of her child who dies and is resurrected-namely, it is we who come from her, go back to her, and rest well in her. This tradition was carried through the cults of ancient Mesopotamia, Egypt, and down into the Classical world, before finally delivering the message into Christian teaching" (p. 257)."
oCampbell's portrayal of the Tree of Immortal Life as an early symbol of spiritual development:
"... From all we know of the Sumerian tradition-and there are other seals in which this tree is shown-there was no sense of sin involved in people's view of this tree. The deity that attended the tree was there to dispense its fruits, and the fruit of immortal life is to be "eaten" (pp. 188-189)."
He also discussed the role of the Tree of Immortal Life for both Buddha and Christ:
"... The Tree of Immortal Life is the very tree under which the Buddha sits. When you approach a Buddhist shrine, you see two military-looking door guardians there. Those are the cherubim to keep you out. What do they signify in Buddhism? They signify your psychological fear and desire. The fear of death is the fear of death to your ego, and the desire that the ego should enjoy the goods that it is interested in-these are what keep you from realizing your immortality. Fear and desire are the slashing rocks that exclude us from the intuition of our own immortal character."
"This is the big theme of the mystery religions of Buddhism and Christianity-Christ when through that door and becomes himself the fruit of immortal life by hanging on the tree" (p. 189)"
o Campbell's description of "The Odyssey" as a spiritual quest driven by the need to regain the feminine aspect of selfhood. This section of the book seemed thematically similar to CG Jung's spiritual journey in "The Red Book"(and fodder for Downey's interpretation of Campbell):
"So now we know the problem: he [Odysseus] is coming from a world that has rejected and denied the female principle, trying to dominate it or subsume it into the patriarchal system, and now he is going to have to face the sheer force of this and submit to it" (p. 162)"
o And Campbell's beautiful account of the emergence of the feminine divine in romantic love during the Middle Ages, when romantic love was seen as the "left-hand path" as well as spiritual journey:
"The rules of love, they really are severe. If you're giving up everything for something, then give up everything for something and stay with it with your mind on where you're going."
"These are wonderful lessons for people who are off on the Left Hand Path-and that's the path to be on if you want to have a spiritual instead of a nice sociological life" (p. 250)"
Throughout the book, there is some circling back to ideas presented earlier, which at times felt a bit repetitious. However, Campbell aimed to show how archetypal qualities associated with goddesses in earlier times have been transmuted throughout history. Rather than destroyed, the feminine divine has continually resurfaced in patriarchal society, albeit in muted forms, if not recast as masculine qualities.
While reading "Goddesses", I repeatedly thought of a few lines from CG Jung's "Answer to Job", where he wrote about two qualities associated with the masculine and the feminine since antiquity:
"Perfection" is a masculine desideratum, while woman inclines by nature to "completeness".... just as completeness is always imperfect, so perfection is always incomplete, and therefore represents a final state which is hopelessly sterile. 'Ex ferfecto nihil fit,' say the old masters, whereas the imperfectum carries within it the seeds of its own improvement. Perfectionism always ends in a blind alley, while completeness by itself lacks selective values" (p. 33)"
Campbell also focused on the association of goddesses with the drive towards union:
"... Where the male come in, you have division, while where the female comes in you have union" (p. 86). "
From "Goddesses", I got the sense Campbell was searching for evidence of a once balanced world order, where masculine and feminine aspects of self and society complement one another and are equally respected. At one point he wrote:
"The important thing about the Goddess is not whether women sat on thrones and ruled in a matriarchal social structure; it is whether the quality of Woman, the being of Woman, the sense of Woman was understood, known, and respected."
I found Campbell's "Goddesses" a revolutionary text even as it stretched deep into human history. Campbell's portrayal of the mythical role of the feminine divine as balancing the masculine aspects of society and self is a refreshing break from the gender wars that today are all too common. One of the greatest messages that came out of Jungian psychology, including Campbell's studies of mythology, has been the recognition that each person has the potential to fully develop both the feminine and masculine aspects of self, which reside within all of us. Campbell's "Goddesses" shows how the balance between the masculine and feminine was lost with patriarchal society, but it also gives evidence of the continual symbolic and spiritual revival of archetypal aspects of the feminine divine.
*Lecture: Christine Downing, Ph.D., "A Woman's Response to Campbell's Sketch of the Hero's Journey, "June 26, 2013. Part of the lecture series, "A Cup of Joe: An Online Journey into the Work of Joseph Campbell" offered by Pacifica Graduate Institute.
BOOK REFERENCES
Campbell, Joseph. 2013. "Goddesses: Mysteries of the Feminine Divine". Novato, CA: New World Library.
Campbell, Joseph. 2008. "The Hero With A Thousand Faces". Novato, CA: New World Library.
Jung, Carl G. 2009. "The Red Book: Liber Novus". New York: W. W. Norton "> (c) 2014 Laura K Kerr, PhD. All rights reserved."
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Why You Could Have Had That Woman You Wanted - Stop losing Connection with the Women you DesireBy Legendary Dating Coach David Wygant
What if I told you that there is ONE thing that most guys do (including YOU I'll bet) which, more than almost ANYTHING else RUINS the chances of most relationships taking off.
Not only that...
What if I told you that this same ONE thing has caused you (probably many times) to walk away from women YOU told yourself weren't interested when, in reality, THEY WERE INTO YOU! (Women to whom you were REALLY attracted)
Don't believe me? Keep reading, then, because I am going to show you how you may be walking away from these women who are interested in you.
Bottom Line: Your ego is ruining it for you.
Let me give you the classic example. See if this sounds familiar to you.
Here you are. You're hanging out with a woman you've been out with three or four times. You're getting along great, and you know it. You're having a good time with her.
Then, all of a sudden, she gets scared (which ALWAYS happens). Maybe she all of a sudden stops calling you. Maybe she doesn't text you back right away. Maybe she hesitates about getting together.
What do you do? You let your ego step in to protect you. Your ego goes to work protecting you, and you say to yourself "Screw it. This isn't going to work out."
What's REALLY going on, is that your ego was just protecting you from becoming even more vulnerable. THEN what happens next is that you RATIONALIZE the situation to yourself by doing things like submerging yourself in your work.
Sounding like anyone you know?! The truth is that your ego is just trying to protect you the whole time.
Not missing that great relationship might just take one more phone call. Call that person out and say to them, "Hey, what's going on? I don't get it. You and I were having a good time, and then you disappear. What's up?"
By calling somebody out on their shit, you're going to get a response that will be FAR different than you ever imagined. Maybe she just needed that extra push. Women like to feel safe.
Maybe she did get a little bit scared. When a woman gets scared, what does she want? She wants to be protected by her man.
A real man is going to make her feel protected and make her feel safe. That's what women are craving - that feeling of safety and security. Women are nesters.
Women are looking at you as a potential husband or father, and they want to feel very safe. By you saying "screw it" and just walking away at the first little sign of possible rejection, you proved to her that that little doubt that she had about you was 100% correct.
You walked away from a woman who wanted you. WHY?
It's just because you didn't want to become vulnerable, and you had to protect your ego. You wanted to save face.
From whom did you need to save face anyway? From your friends? From her friends if she talks to them?
If you call her and just ask her what's up, she is going to go to her friends and say, "He called, and he just wants to know what's going on with me. What should I do?" If her friends know that she likes you, all her friends will be encouraging her to call you.
So your ego just protected you from NOTHING. There are a hundred other similar scenarios like this, but they all have the same moral to the story: You MUST lose the ego.
If you really want a true, spectacular relationship, drop the ego. When you go to meet somebody, drop the ego. Stop worrying about what other people say and just live your life to the fullest every day by becoming vulnerable.
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Insecure leaders that display low EQ become defensive and take it personally whenever they encounter anything that they perceive as criticism or a challenge to their authority.
A secure leader with high emotional intelligence strives to listen, show true empathy and understand what is the underlying reasoning behind behaviours and actions of those they are responsible for managing. They listen before they respond and if they don't understand something they will proceed to ask open ended questions that are meant to gather more information to gain as strong an understanding as they possibly can.
In contrast to leaders with low emotional intelligence, they won't consider everything to be about themselves, but look for ways to make the situation better for everyone involved.
2. AWARE OF THEIR OWN EMOTIONS
Leaders who are unaware of the cause of their own emotions, how to control them and how they are impacted by them will obviously have no awareness of how their words and actions affect others. This can have a very devastating effect on staff morale and consequentially lower productivity.
Leaders whom are highly aware and emotionally adept are conscious of strong emotions and avoid speaking out of anger and frustration. If they feel an uncontainable need to give in to strong emotions in their interactions with others, they give themselves a time out, waiting until their emotions have settled. Following this, once they have had a chance to think about the situation, they can approach it with an open-minded, rationally and be considerate of all parties involved.
3. ADEPT AT PICKING UP ON THE EMOTIONAL STATE OF OTHERS
A leader with high intrapersonal intelligence with strong empathetic skills is aware of other's emotions and is able to use that understanding to develop stronger relationships with their fellow colleagues. Even if delivering bad news, they are able to cushion the impact by simply letting the receiver know that they are aware of how they might be feeling and accurately gauge their emotional state.
Leaders with high EQ are able to genuinely and accurately put themselves in place of the person receiving criticism or negative feedback, allowing them to give it in a way that is be more beneficial and less destructive by truly knowing and understanding the individual's feelings.
4. AVAILABLE FOR THOSE REPORTING TO THEM
Understanding ">Death of family members, friends, relationship breakdowns and all sorts of life crisis will affect virtually everyone at work at times. Emotionally open and secure leaders understand this and are there for emotional support and understanding during these times.
5. ABLE TO CHECK THEIR EGO AND ALLOW OTHERS TO SHINE
While possessing self-confidence, high EQ leaders do not have a need to portray their own importance or value.
They consciously choose their words whilst speaking and acting out of concern for their staff, and the wellbeing of the organization. They necessitate no desire to have their ego massaged and are interested in ways to take credit for the work of others or the gratification that comes with it.
IN ADDITION, INTERPERSONALLY THEY ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR WAYS TO OFFER POSITIVE FEEDBACK AND REWARDS FOR A JOB WELL DONE. SECURE IN THEIR OWN ABILITIES, THEY ARE NOT THREATENED BY THOSE IN POSITIONS BENEATH THEM AND ACTIVELY SEEK TO HELP THEM WORK TO THEIR HIGHEST POTENTIAL AND GROW WITHIN THE ORGANISATION
In a watch pageant anyplace so regular ideas aspect to be flawed iterations on programs we've facing seen, it's brisk to come sideways a pageant that attempts to do whatever thing unique.
FOX's con man cooperate "On your own Assign", which launches tonight, is just that pageant. Generation I don't think the Kyle Killen-series is perfect--there are a lot a few flaws that rearrangement out all the rage the trouble episode--it has the control to transform into whatever thing gaudy. That is, if spectators give it a break.
The pageant revolves bumpily Bob Allen (James Wolk), a malign con man who has ingratiated his way into two women's hearts. There's the mark: Cat ("Friday Shade Lights"' Adrianne Palicki), the trick newborn of an oil tycoon (Jon Voight), who Bob used to step forward the company. And as well as in the small Texas town of Midland, there's Lindsey (Eloise Mumford), his profound girlfriend for whom he enjoys mowing the lawn. (No, that's not a euphemism.)
But Bob has not working the cardinal rule for con men: he's fallen for his own deceit. His relationships with Cat and Lindsey are based on due emotion and he discovers--much to the anger of his grifter twitch John (David Keith)--that he can't wander unacceptable from either of them formerly the unkind time arrives.
For instance follows is a unusual mash-up of "Dallas" and "Big Affectionately", albeit without the dedicated pondering of the Perfect of plurality, a cooperate that questions whether our hearts can concede love for better than one person and whether it's our undertakings or our emotions that institute just who we are.
Despite the rave reviews that Wolk seems to be party, my foremost issue with "On your own Assign" is the casting of Wolk as it's appalling to buy him as Bob/Robert, a magnify role requiring him to tap into whatever thing innately eye-catching and wholly good-natured, whatever thing he lacks the full education to drag off. It's not so extreme his dearest front that's disturbing here; it's the fact that Bob and Robert don't aspect all that clear other than the uniforms of their colony and Wolk lacks sufficient of a rhythmic attract to make me forget this fact.
There's also some groaners relating the logically wood discourse. I'm hoping that substantial episodes interpose a better naturalistic ear as a variety of lines seemed predestined to interpose as extreme presentation as humanly secular. Generation that's consistently the demise of a variety of trouble episodes, it's also whatever thing that can keenly be corrected in the wished-for. Set the determined liberty of its plot, the discourse and chemistry among the actors needs to be top total if the conduit can drag it off in the lifelong.
So far, I'm intrigued sufficient to at nominal handling out a second episode of "On your own Assign" and seeing the executive producers--"Celebration of Five"'s Amy Lippman and Chris Keyser, happening ration as showrunners--did at nominal calm some of my concerns about the lifelong viability of this project. Too, the producers bring lined up some marvelous consistent stars for the first season, by means of Andie MacDowell, Chad Faust, and Rosa Blasi.
At its hub, there's a eager and remarkable assumption for an sequential consecutive cooperate, one that I sparked to formerly I read the trouble script back in the certain. I'm hoping that the producers can problem on the covenant of my indicator attachment and mode "On your own Assign" into a original and offbeat suds.
Faced with the restricted of what to watch at 9 pm on Mondays, I'd constant quite handle "On your own Assign" over NBC's grant, "The Location", yet extra unintended to dollar in on the success that was "Lost" without understanding just what made "Lost" work, particularly in the early duration.
The ill-tempered consequence to that: characters. Generation "Lost"'s trouble episode may bring impending offensive noises in the jungle, polar bears, and profound French messages emanating from a radio mount, it also revolved in its entirety bumpily the leave behind of the passengers of Maritime Expedition 815, three-dimensional and nuanced characters. Generation these assembled passengers may bring been strangers--both to each other and to us--the question of how they would survive the duration to come gave the trouble a trembling of life and a real emotional opulence.
Not so with "The Location", an lavishly produced but brain-dead giving out whose idea of severe cooperate is to present undertakings in a state up in a non-linear mold. In the same way as untangled, not any has extreme respect nor extreme launch. The unintended to grow ram out of such unruly structuring flow dull on its front in the function of the characters are so a minute ago paper-thin. They're not parallel with the ground ciphers per se, but quite watery mannequins enacting a uninteresting play anyplace the rules--and the make premise--are wearing a veil in so extreme "mystery" that characters for ever and a day speak in half-whispers about undertakings and ideas that the churn out is diffident in the murky about.
The promotional campaign tries to play up this proposition of be alarmed about and irresolution, grant storylines that "are not the Location." The trouble itself juggles a pageant of plots--a presidential homicide, a edge hijacking, the disappearance of a twenty-something--that are at first most likely self-supporting but which--quelle surprise!--are on sale to be in some way connected.
As for what that is, it's not on sale in the trouble episode, which is largely forty-plus proceedings of lead up to a major find out at the end of the trouble that better or less reveals the true division of the show you've been celebration. But in structuring the episode in just that way, the producers bring burned a lot of good will. If you can't win people over with a extremely visualize high-concept trouble, what probability are acquaint with of them coming back the stakeout week to learn the unmovable about what they've just been watching?
"The Location"'s producers pin down that they've wise from the mistakes of "Lost" and will interpose answers here the season to the show's necessary mysteries... which is better or less what the producers of ABC's substandard "FlashForward" trip season alleged as well. For instance what's more fail to utter is that it wasn't just the questions and answers that diffident "Lost"'s loyal spectators coming back for better. And if "The Location" has any interpret of obtain on the air, it had better put the conduit less on tricking the churn out with frivolous of equip and cautious famous and better with some related and full characters.
I, on the other equip, won't be sticking bumpily to find out.
"On your own Assign" premieres tonight at 9 pm ET/PT on FOX. "The Location" premieres in the same time stall on NBC.
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A long time ago you're beginning out in a new relationship, acquaint with can be a number of hurdles to miserable. You're a night person; he's up and at 'em at 7 a.m. You like to go camping and hiking; he'd prefer the big trade expo.
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are in high demand today for the simple reason that people really have the ability to become their own psychologists? it? simply a question of changing attitudes. If you feel like you have something to contribute to society and can help people lift emotionally or financially so why not? T you create your own self-help book and start helping today? If this is your first time to write one, so here seven keys on how to write a self-help book.Key 1: Identify a social recession economic disorderThe gave way to a large number of disorders social issues such as the unemployed, depressed workers and owners in bankruptcy, among others. These could all be the subject of your book. You could probably address how to survive the financial and psychological pressure to undergo an economic recession. You might also want to focus on how families are affected by recessions.Key # 2: Describe the situation first, then write about the concept laterPaint a picture of what is happening?. After the hearing already understood what you tell them, explain how psychological concepts will be able to help them in their current situation. They need to understand the circumstances first before they are able to apply non-tangible concepts it.Key # 3: Ensure is very interesting for readersIt book is a self-help and people buy depend on you for help. Make it a reading material to light. Be as interesting as possible so that people will not find it boring and they will continue reading your book. If you really want help, then you must make sure they get to the finish page so they will get optimal results.Key 4: Insert humor neededSerious when issues such as bankruptcy or foreclosure home get anyone down. Make the reader smile whenever possible to help create a better mood for him or her. On the self-help books are not to be serious until end.Key # 5: Give a lot of informationAt a moment of desperation, a person would hold on to something that will perhaps help to overcome this situation. Make your resource guide to survive the tough times by providing enough information for readers. Key # 6: Write like you talk about personallyIt readers is one of the most important tools of the trade among psychologists. Be there for the person who needs a listener is an important aspect of their uplifting spirit. Even if you're a writer, you can write as if you contact them personally. Use pronouns that reflect you and the readers that people who are having an interaction as they read your book.Key 7: Really designed to help your authors readersIf really care about their readers, it will manifest in their writing. Readers will feel as they read from page to page and will gradually help them recover their dramas they live in hope lives.I with these tips on writing self-help books, you will be able to contribute to change a person? s life. Now go and make your efforts. About the Author
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From a reader asking if it is a good idea for sociopaths to date other sociopaths:My reasons for thinking we're a perfect match:1) Point: We need a challenge; everyone else is just too easy to win over. Personal experience: When friends ask me how I do it, I shrug and say something banal because it is useless to try to explain. I feel that "game" is a skill that is fine-tuned throughout life, and even a lifetime of practice will not be of desired effect unless one already possesses an uncanny knack for reading body language, understanding weaknesses and individual needs, deciphering subliminal clues people unknowingly give off, and minimal emotional involvement. The ease at which I get what I want can actually be frustrating. I usually lose interest right after I acquire my target's complete attention and/or whatever I need from him. As I slowly let it go (so as not to burn bridges just in case I ever need that bridge again), I usually get some sort of a love confession. It's a nice ego boost, but it honestly annoys me. Maybe it annoys me because it reminds me that I am incapable of feeling anything back. More likely, it's because I have to waste my energy trying to let him down easy. Yet even more likely, it's probably because it reinforces the fact that I'm failing in my search for another of equal mindset. Rationale: Dating another sociopath would be much more invigorating, as it would be a constant challenge for one another's attention. As stated in Robert Greene's "The Art of Seduction", the most successful couples are those in which both people have mastered seduction. Without this, we get bored. We need a game, and an incompetent opponent is no fun after the first round. 2) Point: Save the emotional acts. Personal experience: I do manipulate, but I do recognize that if I want to remain in respectable societal standing, I have to play towards the emotions of the people I deal with. In my past relationships, I have had to fake what I am not feeling (i.e. pretend to comfort the guy when he's upset, force myself to do the whole stare-into-each-other's-eyes thing, convince him that I feel the same way, etc.) I'm not sure if there are other socios out there that feel this, but strong expressions of love and sadness are the two emotions I feel the most phony mimicking. I can literally feel the insincerity seeping out of my pores. Near the end of relationships my tolerance for such acts fizzles out, and I am accused of not caring...and since I generally don't, he ends up hurt. While I have never felt sorrow or regret from this, I also do not want to leave a trail of broken hearts behind me. It's essentially damaging my reputation and whatever connections I might need to make in the future. Rationale: Tending to a lover's emotions is tiresome and an enormous waste of time. Dating a sociopath would eliminate this rollercoaster of ridiculous emotional performances, and we would be able to live in drama-free harmony. Paradoxically, it would actually be a more honest relationship. 3) Point: We are attracted to those who are both book-smart and street-smart. Personal experience: I am attracted to intellect and power, and I assume that most other socios are as well. I'd rather marry an ugly but manipulative and successful genius than a sexy-as-hell but dumb-as-a-rock superstar. I saw that you mentioned the 48 Laws of Power. I cannot discuss this book with anyone I know. They lack the ability to see the rules as one entity from which we must derive certain principles, based on what our situation and goals are. I consider craftiness along with the ability to gauge situations and handle them with appropriate tact to be my definition of "street-smart". Lacking this quality is a complete turn-off for me. Being book-smart is also essential for my attraction to another; if I feel that I am capable of getting better grades on a factually-based exam than someone, I can't take them seriously. In my dealings with dating, I have come across only one person who has mastered both areas. I have insincerely told several people throughout my life that I "love" them (usually out of obligated reciprocation); I'm unsure of what my take on love is, but I can honestly say that what I feel for that one person is closer to love than what I've felt for anyone else. Rationale: There are plenty of book-smart people out there. There are also plenty of street-smart people. To have both is rare- and those who have both have an edge over everybody else. Most socios are able to recognize this potential for success, for they possess it within themselves. Naturally, we are attracted to excellence. Therefore, we are attracted to other sociopaths.4) Point: Being a "chameleon" can only be understood by others like us. Personal experience: I change my persona depending on what I need and who I am around. My groups of friends are eclectic and from all walks of life. In the past, when the guy I'm with at the time has met a group of friends who views me differently than he does, disaster ensued. "Who are you?", "You didn't tell me you used to do such-and-such things", "I talked to so-and-so...I don't even know you", and so on. I am forced to purposely avoid letting my significant other meet certain people or hear certain things, in an attempt to maintain his view of who I am to him. Rationale: Who we date is usually a frequent escort. That being said, it is difficult for someone who isn't a social chameleon to get along with more than one group of your friends- or anyone who sees you in a different light than your lover does. Dating another sociopath means that he/she will easily fit into your eclectic groups of acquaintances. He/she will understand the necessity of mimicking and will be able to recognize when it is being done. He/she will also be able to mimick, which eliminates the "why do your friends hate me?" mediation and the "what was that all about?" explanations. He/she will understand that the "you" that you are pretending to be is just an act. I could probably continue, but I'll wait for some feedback first. Please do note that I am presenting this from theories I've derived from my own experiences. Also note that I am not referring to full-blown psychopaths, sadists, or those that might only date to extort things from/harm the other. Rather, I am referencing "mild" sociopaths like myself, who understand self-interest and are frustrated with dating simpletons.
Reference: relationships-rescue.blogspot.com
