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Welcome to a slightly different new feature at "Booking in Heels; "one that's dedicated to the Richter-scale rows caused by various books and book-related concepts in the "Heels" household. And I'm not talking a mild discussion over a nice cup of tea during the adverts of "Dancing on Ice. "We're talking about the batten-down-the-hatches-and-get-ready-for-a-long-Winter-cause-you-ain't-going-"nowhere "arguments that usually culminate in tears, my hurling the book in question at Lewis' head and/or us both texting everybody we know to see who's right and the losing partner claiming that well, "they "must be stupid too. What can I say, we love each other but we're not good at domesticity.
First up, we have the "mother "of all argument-causers. "Harry Potter."
"*there should be ominous music here, seriously* "
We're now at the point where any friend or family member that hears those words around us, instantly drops to the floor and plays dead, in the hope that their existence won't be remembered and therefore be dragged into a hideous, bloody re-enactment of this argument. Klaxons sound when an unsuspecting third party mentions it and everybody hides as Hanna and Lewis whip round and instantly assume a fighting stance, ready to Do Battle.
It first kicked off when we saw "Deathly Hallows: Part Two "at the cinema. I hadn't particularly wanted to go - I don't like any of the others that much because I didn't think they did justice to the books, but Lewis enjoyed them and so requested we attend. I agreed because, like when you see a dead rabbit on the road, some things are so awful you "just can't look away."
But you know what? It was alright actually. Obviously they'd missed out a lot of the smaller parts (like the scene with the family photos and Percy near the end - I loved that) but as a whole, disregarding the unfortunate existence of Emma Watson, it was pretty good. They got the atmosphere right, the tone, the characters... The only thing I didn't like was the strange swishy, over-dramatic battle between Harry and Voldemort, but hey, I could look past that.
Lewis? Not so much. As I said, he liked all the other films more than I did, so he's hardly being snobby. However, he does prefer the earlier ones as being more magicky (all technical terms are my own) because he says the later ones are pretentious and trying too hard to be adult. He loathed this one especially though. I can't remember the exact quote, but I'm pretty sure J.K. Rowling would have an aneurysm if she heard.
So, we left the cinema and the ensuing argument started at quite literally the exact minute the lights turned on and I turned to him with tear-filled eyes and hands clasped in unspeakable glee. It lasted through the ten minute walk to the bus stop, during the fifteen minute bus ride, down the ten minute walk home and for a good half an hour after we got home. That's more than an hour of arguing about Harry Potter, folks.
People always look at me slightly askance when they hear that our biggest argument to date was about Harry Potter, but it's true. It could be because we're so happy in our little snuggle nest of love that we simply don't "have "big things to argument but... let's just say that that's "not "it, shall we?
We're the kind of couple that would have two mules on the wedding cake, assuming we ever got to the Altar without stabbing each other in the first place. We're stubborn. "Reeeaaaally "stubborn. And I love Harry Potter, so I absolutely point-blank would "not "let it go. Well. Except for the part at the bus stop where I flatly refused to speak cause hey, I'm a grown up y'all.
I'm sure the woman at the bus stop was only dissuaded from calling the Domestic Abuse Hotline when she gleefully edged closer to listen a bit more (as old ladies around strange arguing couples always do) and found that the word 'Horcrux' was occasionally snarled and decided that we were merely crazy, not abusive.
So, during this time we vehemently were discussing the merits (or lack ther) of Harry Potter, as you do. Lewis has read up to "The Prisoner of Azkaban "and liked them, but got distracted by something else before "The Goblet of Fire "and never went back. Point is, he's never read the book in question so he was claiming the film was bad, and therefore the book must be also.
He says the books are badly written. Not the prose exactly - it's just that he thinks J.K. Rowling got so carried away with her success that she just rammed any old tripe onto paper and shoved it away to Bloomsbury. The ending to "Deathly Hallows "is anti-climactic and the entire Horcrux concept is pointless and trying to be too adult when they're supposed to be children's books.
"Personally, I think the plot is very clever. Not all of it, obviously. It has its faults - look at the middle of the book where they wander around the tent aimlessly for ridiculously long length of time. But I like how it links back to previous books - like how the diary in Chamber of Secrets "is relevant in the end and the basilisk's teeth also make a reappearance. I think it shows planning and commitment to the whole story arc that she can relate the last book back to the all others.
Lewis claims that anybody could churn that out - relevance in later books is easily faked. If Harry used a spoon in "Prisoner of Azkaban, "it could easily later turn out to be The Spoon of Destiny, and it doesn't prove she's a good writer. He also has ranty issues with the relationships (but yeah, okay, I'll give him that one), various deaths and unnecessary darkness.
I also love all the tiny little characterisation points, most of which don't make it into the film. I think they show she's a good writer. As examples, we have '"NOT MY DAUGHTER, YOU BITCH' "and the part where the three Houses all kind of snarl and point their wands at the Slytherins. Either of those will bring tears to my eyes and provoke that funny tight feeling in my stomach.
Not so Lewis, for he is a Manly Man (we watched Gnomeo ">L: She can't write!
H: She can!
L: She can't!
H: *cries* She can!
L: Are you stupid!?
H: I hate you!
During which much was resolved, naturally.
Eventually (and that's a loooong 'eventually,' people) Lewis brought me a cup of tea and cautiously nudged it towards me, and I stopped sniffing pointedly into my tissue and edged a little more Lewis-wards, so we're all good.
For now.
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Other people may say that everyday is a great day to meet a potentially great date, but in reality there are times when it is better to give dating a break. There are different scenarios and circumstances-whether you like it or not-that would not look great on you if the dating partner learns about it. If you are currently in one or more of these situations, perhaps you may want to rethink your dating strategy.
YOUR LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP ENDED IN THE PAST SIX MONTHS
Long-term relationships take their toll when they end, even if you did not marry your partner. Dating someone very soon after your breakup would only result on a rebound relationship, which would only result in a much nastier breakup. You need to have your mind cleared and your heart ready before thinking about dating again.
SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU RECENTLY PASSED AWAY
If you have just dated someone or are meeting new people before that tragic situation, it may be better to take a dating break for several months. Grief can hit you differently, so it is best to give yourself some time to work through your loss before getting involved with a new date.
YOU ARE WITHOUT A JOB, HOUSE, OR BOTH
Although it is true that people lose their jobs and relocate all the time, but that fact that you do not have a place to call home or a steady source of income could actually scare some potential dates. Focus your money and energies into finding a job and immediate shelter first.
YOU ARE SEPARATED, BUT NOT DIVORCED
Even your lawyers would discourage you from dating another person while you are managing a legal breakup with your former marital partner. Give yourself a break for several months-the length depends on how long you have been married-as you try to get over so many emotions before thinking about dating again.
YOU HAVE AN UNRESOLVED ADDICTION OR MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES
If you are undergoing therapy or rehab, in recovery, or are no longer suffer from mental health or addiction disorder, there is no reason to stop dating. However, if you are-for instance-addicted to prescription medicines, suicidal, or are not actively working towards your recovery, it would be better to avoid dating until you have beaten the odds.
LAST WEEK THE TEXAS LEGISLATORS PASSED A BILL BANNING ABORTIONS AFTER 20 WEEKS OF PREGNANCY.
ON CUE, THE RADICAL DEATH-HAPPY LEFTY LIBERAL PROGRESSIVES ESCAPED FROM UNDER THE ROCKS THEY HIDE UNDER, AND CAME OUT IN FULL FORCE TO TRY AND CONVINCE THE LEGISLATORS THAT THEY WERE INFRINGING ON "WOMEN'S REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS".
YEAH, THEY FORGOT TO MENTION THE RIGHTS OF THE UNBORN BABIES....MUST HAVE SLIPPED THEIR MINDS..
IN ESSENCE, PREGNANT WOMEN NOW HAVE 19 WEEKS AND 6 DAYS TO DECIDE IF THEY WANT TO KILL THE BABY THEY'RE CARRYING. APPARENTLY THAT ISN'T ENOUGH TIME FOR THESE RADICALS. NO, THEY WANT TO BE ABLE TO KILL THEIR BABIES RIGHT UP TO BIRTH, AND IN OBAMA'S CASE, EVEN SUPPORT INFANTICIDE - THE PRACTICE OF LEAVING AN UNWANTED NEWBORN BABY IN A ROOM ALONE TO DIE FROM NEGLECT. LOVELY PEOPLE.
THERE IS SOMETHING SERIOUSLY WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE WHEN THEY DON'T SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH KILLING A BABY WHICH IS OVER 20 WEEKS IN GESTATION.
THEY USE WORDS LIKE "WOMEN'S RIGHTS", OR "FREEDOM OF CHOICE" TO JUSTIFY THE MURDER OF THE UNBORN. BECAUSE THE BABIES ARE DEEMED INCONVENIENT.
ABORTION SHOULD BE RARE, SAFE AND LEGAL. PERIOD. IT SHOULD NOT BE THE GO-TO PROCEDURE TO RUB OUT A 'MISTAKE' BY THE FEMALE, OR AS ANOTHER FORM OF CONTRACEPTION. THE RESULT OF THIS SLACKING OFF OF MORALS AND RESPECT FOR LIFE IS THAT THERE ARE NOW OVER 3000 BABIES ABORTED IN THE USA EVERY DAY.
BUT, WHAT ABOUT RAPE, SAY THE FEMINAZI'S?
WELL HERE'S MY REPLY. HOW MANY WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN RAPED DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO THE MORNING-AFTER PILL? A PILL THEY CAN TAKE UP TO 120 HOURS - 5 DAYS - AFTER THE RAPE TO AVOID GETTING PREGNANT. THAT'S NEARLY A WEEK THAT THEY HAVE TO SWALLOW A PILL. RAPE VICTIMS ARE OFFERED ANTI-RETROVIRALS (ANTI-HIV) TABLETS ROUTINELY, SURELY THEY ARE ALSO GIVEN THE MORNING-AFTER PILL! SO THAT ARGUMENT IS FALSE.
WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN RAPED, OR WHO ARE UNSURE IF THEY WERE ADEQUATELY PROTECTED DURING SEX CAN GO TO ANY PHARMACY AND GET THE MORNING-AFTER PILL TO AVOID GETTING PREGNANT ALTOGETHER. NO PRESCRIPTION REQUIRED. PROBLEM SOLVED. THERE SHOULD BE NO EXCUSE THESE DAYS FOR AN ABORTION UNLESS IT'S REQUIRED FOR A MEDICAL EMERGENCY.
AND YET THESE FEMINAZI'S KEEP PUSHING THE LINE ABOUT THEIR REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS. AND NOW THEY'VE SWITCHED TACTICS AND ARE CORRUPTING THE YOUNG, VULNERABLE GIRLS WITH THIS RUBBISH.
THIS IS A PHOTO TAKEN AT THE PROTEST LAST WEEK, OF A 12-YEAR GIRL WHO PROUDLY HELD UP THIS SIGN:
NOTICE HOW THE LEFTY RADICALS ALWAYS SEEM TO USE JESUS AS THEIR ULTIMATE INSULT. THEY NEVER TOUCH ISLAM.
AND NOW THE FATHER OF THIS GIRL IS DEFENDING HER:
WHAT A DAD, EH!
A LOONY-LIBERAL, WHO'S ALSO A TERRIBLE FATHER, RAISING A DAUGHTER WITH NO VALUES OR DECENCY? WELL WHAT A SHOCKER....AND HE'S PROUD OF HIS LITTLE GIRL INSULTING CHRISTIANS TO JUSTIFY THE MURDER OF UNBORN BABIES. ONE HAS TO WONDER HOW MANY ABORTIONS HIS LITTLE GIRL WILL BE HAVING IN HER LIFETIME SEEING AS HE'S RAISED HER WITH THE MORALS OF AN ALLEY CAT. I'M SURE THE FOOTBALL TEAM WILL BE GRATEFUL WHEN SHE GETS TO HIGH SCHOOL.
HERE IS PROUD DADDY STANDING NEXT TO HIS DAUGHTER - HE'S HOLDING UP THE SIGN WITH "NO RAPE BABIES". HE SURE LOOKS LIKE A SIMPERING WIMP - IN OTHER WORDS, A TYPICAL LIBERAL.
PITY HE DIDN'T USE HIS REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS TO AVOID MAKING HIS DAUGHTER...
THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT AMERICA IS GOING TO REAP WHAT ITS SOWN. HAVE A GOOD LOOK AT THE NEXT GENERATION OF FEMALES BEING MOLDED INTO ANYTHING-GOES, ME-ME-ME, BRAIN-DEAD PROGRESSIVES.
Origin: mark-rayan-pua.blogspot.com
Girls won't ask you to hug them, kiss them or whatever even if they want you to. So don't be shy! Girls are not like guys. You piss a guy off after 5 minutes you'll be back laughing and talking again. If you are trying to become a seducer you must completely change your mindset. Don't be afraid of being to cocky or anything like that. Most guys fear approaching women because of lack of knowledge.
Fear is a lack of knowledge and with the right strategy you will be more confident. Learning what to say with the power of persuasion, is very effective. Fear is a deficiency of learning and with the right strategy you will be more confident. Learning what to say with the power of persuasion, is very effective.
Now to become more confident do this. Pick someone who you know who is very successful with women. It can be a person in real life, or someone on television and observe how he acts and copy him. It works every time, you will start to act in a more confident manner......
Picking up women sometimes comes down to specific seduction techniques. If you want increase your chances of attracting and seducing a woman, then you should learn about quality routines to use on girls, but if you are starting in this game, its better for you to stick with the basic technique above.
Another good thing you must do is to ask good questions- Many guys think a conversation involves "interview" type questions like "Where are you from?" or "Where do you work?" Instead of doing this, you should ask interesting questions which she's never heard before. My best advice is to write down and memorize a bunch of questions which will spark a great conversation. Ask gentle questions about her sexual history. Don't ask her "How many times have you had sex?".But you may feel comfortable enough to ask her if she's ever done it in daring places, or on a dare, or with someone who's name she didn't know.
I hope that these simple guidelines can help you in your seduction journey. Never stop learning and you will succeed.
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DON'T BE AFRAID OF BEING TO COCKY WITH WOMEN
Ever since my last article on How to Get Her Number and the release of the VA Phone Game app, a lot of people have been asking me about texting girls - especially when you can't get them on the phone. If you've read the rest of my articles on Phone Game, you'll know that I, like many of the masters I've learned from, believe that a phone call is far more effective for building comfort and setting up the date than a text message conversation. Now, there are some cases where texting is required or more productive than trying to get her on the phone, and we will get into in a moment. But I want to be clear these are typically either situations that can be avoided with more practice and better comfort game, or unusual situations that are beyond your control.
And yet, because calling a girl on the phone can be surprisingly stressful at first, AFCs and PUAs alike will come up with all sorts of excuses and rationalizations for why it's OK to text a girl over phoning her. Talking to a woman you hardly know on the phone generates a similar anxiety to approaching her at the club. You fear that she may reject or not remember you (which can be disheartening if you worked hard for that number), or that you won't know what to say, or that the conversation will be awkward or embarrassing. Compared to all that, texting seems like a pretty "safe" way of talking to a girl, which is why many PUAs try to justify text messaging exclusively with crap like "Well most girls are used to using BBM and Facebook anyway so they're more used to texting" or "I don't want to sound nervous on the phone and lose her after all that work" or "I get more time to come up with a better response when it's with texting". The problem this is what every other low-value male thinks and does. And unfortunately, most women also recognize texting as the "safe" way of talking to them, so any guy that does this gets lumped in with the rest of the insecure men who are too afraid to call her up and ask her out.
The other major fear men have when it comes to phoning women is that they don't know when to call or what to do if she doesn't pick up. The prevailing fear is usually that if she doesn't phone you back and you have to call her AGAIN, it will look try-hard on your part and you could lose the set. Or even if she does phone you back and you miss the call, you will get stuck in a shitty game of phone tag as you try and fail to call her at a time when she's free. We're going to talk about tactics for avoiding this below.
WHEN IT'S OK TO TEXT
Typically, you'll want to use text messaging to send short messages only. Sending her your number with a little bit of callback humour after you #-close is perfectly fine. Sending small "text pebbles" to spike buying temperature or keep her thinking about you is great too. So is texting to finalize details before your next hangout. As a general rule: use texting for a quick message or buying temperature spike, and use phone calls for comfort and making plans.
That said, we'll now look at the rare/uncommon scenarios in which you may have to rely on texting over a phone call in order to progress things to the next level after a #-close. These are less-than-ideal situations that can sometimes be avoided with stronger comfort game, but are sometimes simply unavoidable due to circumstances on her part. Where if you don't text her, you'll risk falling into the phone tag trap and will risk losing the girl.
There will be times when you will call a woman and she won't pick up. Many PUAs will get discouraged by this and resort to texting immediately. THIS CONVEYS INSECURITY! There are a million possible reasons why she didn't answer. She could be at work and unable to answer. She could be out with her friends not hear her phone go off in her purse. She could be screening numbers she doesn't know (another reason why giving her your number is a good idea when you #-close). Or she could simply be a little nervous about talking on the phone herself.
Regardless, leave a message and if you don't hear from her, wait a day or two and send her another text followed by another phone call in the evening. You can read more about this formula and why it works HERE. If she calls you back, you're golden. But if she texts you instead, you will have to calibrate.
You still want to see if you can get her on the phone, so text her a bit back and forth and then try one of the following to see if you can bait her into calling you:
"OMG I have to tell you the craziest thing that happened to me the other day, but text will not do it justice."
"So I'm more of a phone call person than a text person. Texting is so impersonal."
"You're pretty cool, but it's hard to tell via text. I find phone calls are much more personal." (for sets where you haven't had much comfort time yet)
If you don't think she'll bite and call you, you can add "You free for a quick call? Or are you one of those BBM/instant message freaks?"
A small percentage of girls will only ever text. Usually after the first or second call (or if you ask them to call you as above) they will text you back with some sort of apology or excuse about work or daytime minutes, etc, etc. This is fine, just respond with something like "No worries I understand. Phone calls just feel more personal, you know?" and then stack into the next piece of conversation via text. Or, you can even reframe it like "No worries. I like phone calls because they're more personal. But I guess now that just gives me more motivation to see you in person, doesn't it? I'm on to your tricks now little girl!" or "Yeah phone calls just feel more real, you know? How else will I know you're not some sort of bearded hill-person pretending to be you?" Others may not explain but only ever text you back if you call. If you've called her a couple of times and had her only respond via text messages instead of returning the call, take the response as an IOI for now and give up on calling this girl for now in favour of texting.
Other times you will call a woman and she won't pick up but call you back later, only for you to miss her call. Then you go back and forth chasing each other on the phone as you play phone tag. This can become very discouraging and can very quickly turn her off of the idea of calling you. Style's method of dealing with this is to send her a funny text about phone tag and ask her when she'll be around to chat. Something like:
"Phone tag! You're it! When are you around to chat?"
"Clearly we both need secretaries to handle all these calls. Have your people let my people know when you're free to chat."
"Wow and people say I'M hard to get a hold of. Haha let's stop playing phone tag. Let me know when you're around for a chat!"
The bottom line is that, while phoning a girl is usually a better idea than texting, you still need to be flexible and versatile with your phone game. Every girl has slightly different phone habits, preferences, and schedules, so you have to be quick to adjust. I once dated a girl who would absolutely never answer the phone when you called her, but would PHONE YOU BACK if you TEXTED her. Confusing, right? So if I wanted to invite her out I'd have to send her a text like "Hey doll, karaoke with the gang this Tuesday. Gonna rock me some Meatloaf!" and within an hour or so she'd call me right back to sort out the details.
Get into the habit of thinking of texting as a kind of back-up for those times when phoning will not get the result you want and DO NOT rely on it for conversations, building comfort, or inviting her to hang out with you. A phone call shows balls and helps convey your personality, and a verbal invite is a lot harder to say no to than a textual one!
Happy sarging,
Prophet
This was one of my earliest "Alpha Moves", and was born out of poverty and desperation as much as romance and lust. After so many long, philosophical posts I figured I'd toss y'all a dating bone.
When Mrs. Ironwood and I first started going out, we were the typical poor college students living in a student hovel. "Going out" meant the Wendy's Hot Bar (Wendy's had a hot bar back then) and drinking an embarrassingly cheap bottle of wine at home.
But after a few months the complacency had begun to set into our relationship, and I saw the need, even then, to inject a healthy dose of lusty romance into it to keep us both interested. Fancy restaurants or theater being far out of our reach, I INSTEAD SEARCHED FOR SOME WAY TO GET HER IN A SENSUOUS, ROMANTIC PLACE FOR SOME SERIOUS NO-ONE-CAN-HEAR-YOU-SCREAM NOOKIE, WITH ACCOUTERMENTS, FOR LESS THAN FIFTY BUCKS. After doing a little basic research, I figured it out. In retrospect, it was a good Red Pill date moment, simple and elegant, but instructive. And it made "quite" an impression.
I took Mrs. Ironwood on a "midnight picnic."
PREPARATION
This took a bit of prep, of course. I chose a late Spring, early Summer day, after the pollen but before the mosquitoes, and I carefully selected a secluded site. Luckily we lived on the edge of the rural/urban interface, so finding a place far enough away from people to ensure privacy, yet close enough to keep it from being a chore to get their in the dark, wasn't that much of a problem. Even then Mrs. Ironwood could trip over her own shadow.
The spot I selected was a long-abandoned horse pasture, still mostly fenced in, well behind the old stable. It was at the far end of the pasture, which had been long-trodden and overgrown for years, and was now covered with moss. It was quite meadowy. Overhanging cedar trees provided both a screen for seclusion and a place to hang stuff -- and hang stuff I did.
This was the Age Before LEDs, so instead I used several hurricane lamps and candles, distributed around the blanket I pre-positioned. I used the space behind a largish rock for a staging area, dragging a cooler and a boom box there and setting up both. I borrowed a few wind chimes from my mother's back porch and hid them in the trees for effect. I set up an unobtrusive cone of incense far back away from our picnic to keep from triggering her asthma. In the cooler I added a selection of three types of cheese, crackers, summer sausage, grapes, strawberries and sugar, wine glasses, cutting board, knife, corkscrew (OK, it wasn't screw-cap cheap wine, but close), a citronella candle, and napkins. The boom-box was set up with a mix tape (!) of George Winston tunes, soft rock, and vocal Celtic music (which I didn't know at the time, but my future wife absolutely "loathed").
The blanket was a wide, fluffy one spread out over a tarp. I brought a few pillows along for comfort, and just in case of rain I pitched my pup-tent discreetly on the other side of the barn. Then I threw another tarp over the blanket and made sure that the path from the parking area to the pasture was clear of twigs, branches, and garden gnomes.
EXECUTION
That evening, I knew the future Mrs. I was working until at least 9:30 (restaurant job), and since her car was broken down, I picked her up from work. We had some small talk, smoked a cigarette, and were headed home just like a normal night... when I took a strange turn off of the road.
"Uh, where are we going?" she asked, a little nervously.
"This way," I assured her, as we crept down the dirt road. She bit her lip and then suddenly started looking all over the back seat of my gallant college POS, an AMC Pacer. The future Mrs. Ironwood had decided to date me, anyway.
"What? What are you looking for?" I asked, confused.
"An axe, duct tape, chainsaw, garbage bags, that sort of thing," she said, cheerfully as she turned back around.
"Oh, "relax," I soothed. "If I was that kind of dude, I would have done that "months "ago and moved on already. Those guys are poseurs. I'm not that afraid of commitment. Sorry, but you're in for "years" of torment ahead of you," I joked. "Besides, you keep that kind of shit in the "trunk."
"You don't have a trunk," she pointed out. "So where the hell "are" we going?" she demanded, her nostrils flaring prettily.
"On a date," I said, even more mysteriously. "Fairy land, maybe. Relax, enjoy the evening. It's a full moon," I pointed out.
She grunted an agreement, but still looked worried. But excited. I finally stopped the car in the middle of nowhere and then asked her to wait a few moments. She wasn't thrilled with that, out in the woods, but I told her she could lock the door and leave the lights on until I returned, if that made her feel better, so she agreed.
I ran down to the meadow and took the tarp off the blanket, lit the candles and lamps, and turned the music on softly before returning to the car. I was only gone maybe two minutes.
"What now?" she asked, through a barely-slitted window. The door was still locked.
"Now, we go on our date," I said, offering her my hand. "Trust" me."
We were still new in the relationship, so I can understand her hesitation. But she also knew I had gone to a lot of trouble, and I probably really wasn't a serial killer because those guys are always loner neat-freaks and I was a social slob. So she got out of the car and reluctantly followed me.
I'd lit the first candle in the path just out of sight of the car, so when we turned the corner she saw it. Her eyes lit up a little. Seven more tealight candles later, and she was staring at the picnic I'd laid out, wonder in her eyes.
"You did all this... for "me?"
"My first date prospect fell through," I joked. "And I figured you'd be my next easiest choice, emphasis on 'easy'," I quipped. "Of "course" I did it for you. Who "else "do I want to seduce by moonlight?"
"I'm sure you have a list," she mused, while looking around at all of the candles, augmented by the season's first fireflies. "Ian, it's "beautiful!"
We sat down, ate the picnic, had a lovely evening to soft music and candlelight, and even managed to slow dance a little under the stars and the bright, full moon. Then we proceeded to the sweaty bits several times before the bugs finally overcame the inherent romance of the moment and forced a late retreat.
It's been nearly 20 years since I did that, but whenever Mrs. Ironwood discusses "the perfect date" with my nieces and daughter, she brings that one up without fail as one of her top five. I've repeated it several times since -- always an unexpected surprise, always well-planned and executed, with contingencies for everything from wild animals, sudden showers or wandering law enforcement officials well-made. She says it was one of the most Alpha dates she'd ever been on, since she had no idea it was going to happen and no input into what we did. As such, it was a very, "very" interesting, hopelessly romantic surprise that helped cement in her head the idea that she wanted to have my babies.
So consider trying this one out. It's cheap, it's easy (and we're dudes... we LOVE "cheap and easy"), it's impressive, it demonstrates foresight and sensitivity as well as your ability to plan and execute a simple date that doesn't involve tipping or being anywhere at a particular time. Consider doubling the picnic with a telescope to look at the moon, or schedule it during a meteor shower where you spend the evening making wishes on falling stars.
It doesn't have to be midnight, but the next time you're trapped watching "DANCING WITH THE STARS" with your wife before she yawns and goes to bed, remember that you could be dancing "under" the stars -- and getting some nookie "au natural "-- instead.
Origin: dating-for-black-men.blogspot.com
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NEVER Indication WOMEN
The Bruno Mars song, "GRENADE", tells the story of heartbreak caused by a ruined relationship. It's about a guy in love with a girl who he knows for a fact doesn't love him the way he loves her.
Women live in merchandise land so this song is successfully conscious romantic (Incoming THE Top-quality Post). At a stop, it's only conscious romantic what women see about their "Evocative MAN", not the ordinary guy. Any person not her "Evocative MAN", and it no longer is romantic; it's mad, unrequited love that's heroic of a make conform connect.
Let's spectacle the lyrics
Bruno Mars - "Grenade"
GAVE YOU ALL I HAD AND YOU TOSSED IT IN THE Unpleasant
To give me all your love is all I ever asked
Lengthways with his "Point of view", his circumstances is trashed too.
He's chasing a girl who does't feel the exceptionally way about him. This is unrequited love and it gets mad.
I'D BE A Paying guest A GRENADE FOR YA
Adhere my end on a scamper for ya
I'D Foundation IN Forward OF A Rule FOR YA
You let identify I'd do what for ya
Nope, his love and circumstances isn't virtuous. He'll competition of coincidental on its last legs for her too, what to get this girl to feel the exceptionally way about him. And just how would this girl feel like than she's keen of all this?
IF MY Dead body WAS ON Forward
Ooh, you'd watch me poach down in approach
You thought you loved me, you're a con artist
cause you never, ever, ever did, small
She still wouldn't care! She's apathetic to his embarrassing attempts at charming her include. Bruno Mars in stop press to repeats the exceptionally lyrics, admitting that he knows that she wouldn't care
So why is he play-act this? Oh, at the exceptionally time as he impression she thought she "Dear" him?
Attractive, Unreturned Point of view
"Point of view" is a feeling. In the context of dating, it's party.
Simple at the exceptionally time as a women says whatever thing, doesn't mean right she predictable itor that she in effect remembers it. Women live in the meaning. They're nervousness fit emotional; as such they're far lessons whimisical in what they feel, how they act, and very well what they say.
A women authority say she wants to meet her "SOUL-MATE" or "THE ONE". This is just novel merchandise. It's not real, and again, she immovable detail isn't thinking of the ordinary guy.
The idea of "SOUL-MATES" or "THE ONE" implies choose (MANIFESTED BY Appointment AND Not used Expansive). Upshot is, no one is enlarge and believing so is setting up for instructions balloon. Let know with is no "SOUL-MATE" or "THE ONE". That's a myth! Rest on that give to will be some that are lessons equivalent than others, and that's it.
Go on Disney. Go on social conditioning. Go on feminism if you want. At a stop, reproach yourself for ever believing "Carnival BE YOURSELF" was virtuous to get girls.
Women aren't aroused by ordinary guys or guys they feel sum to in practice. Bob from Part authority maintain been a nearby be a lodger twenty drive ago what women were looking for providers, but it's the 21st century women aren't settling on ordinary. Women are making it on their own, with or without the Bobs of the world.
In the exceptionally way as a popular vocalist like Bruno Mars tells ordinary guys that they griminess dash women, he's destroying any destiny they'll ever maintain for success with women.
Never dash a woman at the exceptionally time as play-act so will still cut in them detail join improbable. Upshot is, what a man chases, the girl loses all respect for him. And what a girl no longer greetings a man, she immovable detail will never be aroused by him.
Bounce men authority in stop press to become level to the pitch. They'll cry and beg to win her include. They'll say and do at all a women tells them. They authority go as far to buy generosity, grass, clasp her out on heavy dinners, etc. These hard work will never be conscious romantic. No. They'll be seen as mad, unrequited love that she'll bustle with her friends about. This isn't what real men do either. This is 'How to Shrinkage major with Women 101.
Be sensitive to maintain some dignity!
Cherishing unloading that doesn't feel the exceptionally is embezzle time improbable from royal that would hold at the ability.
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Right now me and my brother notice a very similar feeling. A few weeks ago when we both became single, we had an incredible drive to go out. We tried to use every situation that was possible, sometimes I took a day off just to make party also during the week. It was a lot of fun, we made competitions who got the most numbers from the hottest girls and didn't leave the parties till the lights went on. Unfortunately since about two weeks, this drive decreased totally. We still go out to party's, receive a lot AI but always find excuses so that we don't have to approach them. The excuses are so silly that we often laugh at ourselves, but we know the reason: Success.
SUCCESS IS A GREAT THING, BUT SUCCESS LEADS TO SATISFACTION AND SATISFACTION IS WHAT HOLDS YOU IN YOUR COMFORT-ZONE. He met a lot of girls, got bored of most of them, but one. She isn't his dream-girl but there is chemistry and he likes her so he doesn't see any reason why he shouldn't start a relationship with her. I got to know a lot of new girls, met some of them, had fun, but didn't really felt THAT'S IT.
Nothing bad about that, we are happy and have a good time. It just limits our ability to grow. Both of us don't have enough time and drive to approach and meet new girls. We are satisfied but didn't reach our limit. There is still a lot of space to grow and reach the Kind of success we are capable of.
THE BIGGEST GROWTH HAPPENS WHEN YOU STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT-ZONE!
This relates to all kind of areas, many smart people have said this before, you probably have heard it already, but it's so important that you remind yourself of this regularly. Your body and mind is designed to reduce all kind of work to save energy. You get naturally drawn into your comfort-zone over and over again as long as you live.
YOU HAVE TO TRAIN SELF-DISCIPLINE AND FORCE YOURSELF GROW!
Since the last weeks I notice more and more that if you don't have a lack in an area your drive decreases totally. You feel satisfied in your comfort-zone and become lazy. So force yourself continuously to do something for your growth. I know it's not that easy, especially if you don't need it but remember yourself what's your goal and what you want to archive in life. It's all about self-discipline.
One hour ago I watched a Video from a famous bodybuilder what to do if your Goal is to cut fat but you have that strong urge to eat something sweet. His answer: Just don't eat it. It's that simple, if you want to be a real man, you sometimes have to do what's logically right and not what your emotions are leading you to. So next time you see a Girl that you are really attracted to, don't be a pussy, remember your goal.
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