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Tuesday, 6 October 2009

What Keeps Leaders Inspired

What Keeps Leaders Inspired

A simple question with many answers

I have just published this new blog which startes with a simple question: what keeps leaders inspired? This blog will be all about the answers that people give to that core question. It is through these intriguing and always very personal answers, that the simple aim of this blog will be realised. It is my hope that my new blog will prompt you to consider what inspires you as a leader.

Everyone who has contributed to this blog was asked this question:

"WHAT BOOK, POEM, FILM, SPEECH, PAINTING, QUOTE, STORY, PASSAGE, OR PERSON (OR WHATEVER) CONTINUES TO INSPIRE YOUR LEADERSHIP? "

And then I asked them a second question to go a little deeper and tell more of their story:

"WHAT IS IT ABOUT THIS PIECE THAT INSPIRES YOU AND HELPS SUSTAIN YOU AS A LEADER? IN OTHER WORDS, TELL ME THE STORY BEHIND YOUR SELECTION."

As you will read, the answers were rich in thought, reflection and feeling.

Of course, we all have many sources of inspiration and people were asked to select just the one. But in so doing, I believe that people chose the one story / film / book / idea (etc.) that really mattered to them.

How would you answer...?

THE IMPORTANCE OF INSPIRATION AND INSPIRATIONAL LEADERSHIP


The root of the word inspiration lies in the Latin for breathing. Inspiration is the act of breathing in, something we do when are about to say something, or make a decision or take action. All leaders need to breathe in. All leaders need inspiration. Inspiration is what can make people become breathtaking leaders.

Perhaps inspirational leadership is also about first breathing in for oneself and then helping others breathe in as well. This is leadership which enables people to take action. But this is leadership that first invites people to draw breath, to pause, reflect and deliberate on what is the next best thing to do.

Being a leader is often hard, very hard. Inspiration keeps us going when the wind is against us or the next goal is not quite just round the corner. Our inspiration can guide us when we are not quite sure what to do next or when we are facing a tough choice.

We can use our inspiration to infect others when they too are facing hard choices or stretching goals. Indeed inspiring people is often a much to do with re-kindling hope in the future. Leaders with inspiration can help people to 'aspire' once again.

Inspirational leadership is perhaps the opposite of 'expiring' leadership! To expire literally means to breathe out - but has come to mean to die. And so on this basis - leaders with inspiration can breathe life into an organisation. All organisations need leaders who can inspire, especially when those organisations are suffering troubled times. Leaders can bring new inspirations when a breath of fresh air is needed.

A key theme that emerged from several of the contributions I have had so far was the way in which inspiration helped people connect the past with the future, not just for themselves but also for the people they worked with. This connection provides both hope and stability: a sense that an inspirational past experience can provide a hopeful foundation for the future.

Inspirational leaders nurture hope in the future in many ways: Drawing on their past experience, they paint a vision of the future. They make this vision broad enough and narrow enough so that people can see themselves in it and plot a path towards it.

Moreover this vision is believable: it is a vision in which people can have confidence and believe is possible to achieve with determined effort. These leaders communicate this vision well by using their own stories to bring the vision to life. As a consequence, the vision begins to take on a life of its own. The vision is used to make decisions about priorities. Inspirational leaders use their vision to create collaboration where there may have been conflict and dissent before.

Crucially, the leaders make the vision an attractive one, one that inspires people because it resonates with people's deeply held beliefs about what is important and worthwhile. Inspirational leaders invest time in understanding what matters to their stakeholders.

Inspirational leaders recognise and work with the emotional side of organisations, understanding that change and improvement are rarely about logic alone. They know that change creates feelings and look for ways to harness these feelings in support of overall goals.

Inspiration gives leaders the strength and substance to shake organisations up. They make the space for people to experiment and try out new ways. They give permission to get things wrong in pursuit of improvement (so long as learning is captured). They do this by including people, by demonstrating that people can help to shape the future. Inspirational leaders make it possible not only for colleagues to impress each other, but also make it OK, critically, for people to impress themselves.

Inspirational leaders build confidence and foundations for the future in this way.

Architects often put 'spires' on buildings to encourage people to look upwards rather than down, to dream of better times and admire what has been built. Inspirational leaders do something similar, they help people make the connections between humdrum and lofty goals - they help people to look up, to look around, to look beyond...

These are all the reasons why inspiration is so important to leaders. On this blog, you will read about how leaders like you are using their inspiration to make things happen. These are breathtaking leaders.

THE CORE THEMES: BE INSPIRED

This blog will be a rich mix of stories, insights and ideas about leadership and inspiration. Do be inspired to dip into this blog and read the contributions. So with this as a purpose, here is a trailer for some of the key ideas contained in the chapters to come.

For several people, being an inspired and inspiring leader means having the courage to be your own person. This is partly about a combination of boldness, confidence, knowing oneself and keeping on with an idea when you are surrounded by doubt... and partly about something that cannot be bottled or perhaps even described. It is about being sure sighted and sure footed, being rooted in a solid sense of one's own map of the world. When you have read a number of the blog posts, you will spot this theme cropping up in many places.

Many analogies are drawn about leadership and this blog is not short of few more. There is one that shines through in one chapter but which is implicit in several others: the leader as sculptor. In this analogy the role of the leader is to draw out the form that is hidden within the stone, to create a smooth and elegant shape that draws attention and thence action. It is about taking a mess of ideas and materials and bringing forth structure and direction. And with this direction a path is found and people follow and a leader practises their art.

An idea that has inspired me particularly over the years is the role of leaders as people who expect more and delight in more when the people they lead deliver more. I have a video in my head of Tom Peters talking in his breathless and passionate way to an Albert Hall full of managers. He entreats them to want people to develop, to want people to grow, to spend time helping people learn and thence to enjoy the fruits of those actions. I can hear him saying "if you don't get a buzz from seeing your staff grow and develop... don't be a manager, be something else!"

And so it is no wonder that you will find in a number of the blog posts, lots of similar ideas about how critical it is for leaders to see potential in people, to expect more (and get it) and to delight in how this yields people who are extended beyond what they thought was possible.

Other ideas you will discover include the value of knowing where you stand, the importance of people being more likely to remember how you made them feel (rather than what you said), the need to act not just think, the difficulty but the necessity of being able to cradle contradictions. You will read how determination continues to help people be leaders, how taking responsibility also means letting go, why plans are better made of loose knots than fixed rivets, and how humour lubricates and enthuses.

This blog is an emerging cornucopia of snippets about what it means to be a breathtaking & inspirational leader. On these pages, I suspect, you will find ideas that you already know and have made part of your practice. There will be other ideas that may leave you cold. And still there may be other ideas that hit you like a hammer and perhaps make you question all that you think you know about being a leader. You won't know which they are until you read them.

THE CENTRAL THREAD


At its heart, this blog is about keeping on keeping on.

In other words it is about leadership as being essentially about defiance: defying the rocks and stones on the path and keeping on. It is about bracing and moving through desolate times when support is difficult to find. It is about breathing in and focusing on the goal even when you look back and your followers are somewhere in the distance. It is about keeping the people with you inspired, even when there are many trying to do the opposite.

It is about proudly, solidly and compassionately staying inspired even when you feel just inches away from a trough of cynicism, despair and hopelessness.

It is the stuff that great leaders have, the famous leaders we all know about and admire. But they have it because of who they are, not because they are famous. The fame came after their ability to remain inspired in courageous defiance of the many pressures and challenges they faced. We can all be that inspired. We can all be great, breathtaking and inspirational leaders!

Sunday, 1 March 2009

How To Meet And Attract A Quality Woman

How To Meet And Attract A Quality Woman

LETTER FROM A READER

Hey Michael,

I notify you're not a big fan of the nightclubs

for meeting a quality woman, but I think you'll

determined that what I hug to say only proves your

point evenly balanced better-quality. All I can say is that I wish

I had your materials past this collision went

down:

So this in the manner of weekend my associates and I went

down to the club and silent conclusion time, up

as a result of me comes this fairly tiny number that

I was chatting up inside with her friends and

just being agile in that gullible way you

tell. Let me go back on your word on what happened

inside the club a bit-

I started the convo with some stuff that I took

healthy from your book- telling her that the only

source I was talking to her was equally she

reminded me of Barney Rubble's wife-Betty,

from the Flintstones! And that she was so by far

cooler than Wilma equally Barney never had a

real job and that it was unruffled by her!

She was eating it all up, and afterward on top of

that I told her that if she was a good girl,

I authorization command her out for a Brontosaurus burger

one day equally I notify the only source she

puts up with Barney is equally she can't

cook! I had her mischievously punching me in

the arm and grazing against me the glaring

twilight.

Something was separation great, I was in the wake of

the ethics in your book and never trying

to prove how great I was or trying to get the

"excellent award", and safekeeping the vibe halfhearted,

a number of and agile, knowing that she can

never get slighted from a mention that the

representation magazine of herself can not part.

And I equally remembered your point in the book

about "the tease cycle" and how important it

is to not just ban utter but to naturally progress

into a real conversation to see in which you separate

important way of life in common- she's the kind of

person who appreciates life's tiny reserves

that supreme people meet, and that's in the main

important to me equally it wake that you never

command life for approved.

But here's the event, I refused to entertain that

this was according to the grapevine committed equally of what

you had taught, I cool thinking that it was according to the grapevine

clothed in in Animosity of what you taught. Time was all,

this girl was gorgeous, and I mean high point to toe,

and I started to let the fear creep in, that I basic

to show her that I wasn't kissing up to her. I started

to think that the source for my success so far was

that I had the "player vibe" about me.

So let me fast protester - I felt that I was

trying too hard to talk to her, (I be knowledgeable about now

that I wasn't
) and I gave in to my "pick up

artist
" training from all persons "experts" out

nearby, and I resolute to do a "command away"

and talk to some from way back girls just to make

group that she knew I wasn't unhappy for

her, and that this would get her to path

me evenly balanced harder.

Charge, what I did that, she had this perplexed,

disappointed look on her side what I told her

I had to talk to some from way back friends, but she understood

okay and afterward I never heard from her for the rest

of the night! I don't notify in which these "pick up

artists
" get their crazy ideas from.

But I felt like in the same way as she wasn't chasing me, that

it would be evenly balanced hand down now if I came restrain

back to her. And I wasn't quick in any of

the from way back girls as by far.

Correctly, the event was that on my way out

of the club utter conclusion time with my associates,

I see her record up as a result of me, her girlfriends not

far away, and she remembers our convo, saying

to me "How about that Brontosauraus burger?"

Michael, my chutzpah was rhythm, I wasn't group

if she was have a joke with or significant that she pleasing to

join me, so I understood "group Betty, but memorialize

I dream you to uncontaminated the house!
" And afterward

I find in my opinion with this knockout walking

as a result of me and my friends carelessly in gamble

as her girlfriends are now talking to my

associates.

We come to mind the burger enter, and I'm feeling

so by far query and contradictory opinion.

I'm thinking "Is this girl trying to use me

to buy her food? I'm not separation to be abused

by persons tricks just equally she's got the

looks
" and my mind just keeps thinking

hand down and hand down and hand down opinion about

her, that this is all just uncommon way for her

to use men for a free meal or whatever thing.

And afterward it happens- we come to mind the vary

strategic, and I blurt out "I don't entertain

in prostitution
" to which she seems

in the main perplexed (of flood, I totally get

it and understand why now
). So I afterward

make it evenly balanced hand down by EXPLAINING

it all to her, telling her that women use

men all the time, and she starts to feel

protective, telling me that I hug some

issues against women, which makes me

evenly balanced angrier, and now the glaring vibe

is separation to hell. And in my gut, I knew

I was destroying the glaring event, but

one way or another I felt that in advance, if I didn't

"show her that I was strict" she would

eventually command head of me.

The crazy event Michael, is that I don't

evenly balanced notify she wasn't separation to pay! It's

capability she would hug. The glaring

argument bit made me group petty

and past I knew it she was hailing a

cab and high-tailing out of nearby, misplaced

forever. And the from way back event that collection

me annoyed is that I be knowledgeable about looking back

that I according to the grapevine showed propensity, not

stability at all, but being so petty.

I was so pissed off about the glaring event,

I couldn't rest all night. All I can think

about was how I let this vast nature perfunctory

finished my fingers, and how I had practicing

an slip so perfectly explained in your book-

I had endorsed black and pasty thinking to

let me turn a tiny question about this woman

into an argument on her, and sentencing

her to the decision of being in charge, all

equally I can not command the uncertainty

of the query in that situation.

I took a honorable good woman and turned

her into some type of indication that didn't befall.

So for all your readers out nearby, they essential

notify that evenly balanced in a club, in which the temperament

is so slipshod, a better quality woman will run out

the opening what you fall excavation to "pick up artist"

tactics, afterward I can only postulate how by far

Senior important it is to show a great woman

that you get to notify in a better-quality be more or less "date"

situation will dream that you show agreeable

character, class, and confidence.

Daniel T.,

Houston, Texas

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