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I've had a couple recent requests from readers for information on learning journals:
"I've been intrigued by the idea of using journaling & reflective writing, but can't find any resources for how to get that off the ground. I'm worried about pitching it to people who may feel like it's simply a teenage "dear diary" and am wondering how to provide some structure and support for this kind of process without demanding people turn in their journals for review. Any help?"
"Would you be able to provide me and your readers with the ins and outs of journaling and how to use it as a learning tool? I am very interested in this piece, but not quite sure what goes into it. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated!"
You may have kept a diary as a kid, or were forced to write them as a part of your summer camp experience. Then, perhaps you never used them again.
I guess you could say blogging is a modern electronic form of a journal. That's one of the benefits I get from blogging - writing about leadership development sure has helped my development.
So why and how would you use a journal for leadership development?
First of all, the physical act of writing something down promotes learning. It probably has something to do with internalization and ownership ("I wrote it down so it must be true") - or maybe there's some weird physical neurological thing going on.
Journaling also helps promote reflection, and reflection is a critical component required in order to learn from experience. And of course, learning from experience is where most of our development as leaders comes from.
This is one of those practices where I just can't point to a mountain of research - I just know it works. Besides, no one has ever resisted the idea or questioned it.
Oh, and there's one more very practical reason (now we're talking) for using journals for leadership development. There sure are a lot cheaper and easier to produce than thick 3 inch training binders (which end up in trash cans or gathering dusts on shelves). You can buy a very nice one at any office supply store for under 20.00.
Here are 4 ways learning journals can be used for leadership development:
1. PART OF A FORMAL TRAINING PROGRAM.
Either send journals out with pre-work material or hand out the first day of the program. Encourage participants to use them to record questions, notes, insights, and action plans.
Of all the leadership and management programs I've been to, the one piece of collateral I most often refer to is the learning journal from an executive education program I attended at Darden.
2. PART OF A COACHING ENGAGEMENT.
Give one to your coachee as a gift at the beginning of a coaching engagement. Encourage them to write down their goals, actions plans, commitments, what they are learning about themselves, and reflections on assignments.
3. PART OF A DEVELOPMENT ASSIGNMENT.
Stretch assignments and job changes are often used for leadership development. However, what's often missing is taking the time to reflect and debrief with a manager, coach, or mentor. See CCL's Questions That Facilitate Learning From a Development Assignment.
4. WHEN SHADOWING.
Shadowing is when you find someone who's really good at something and follow them around to learn how they do it. It's a great way to begin to onboard new managers, or for any manager to get better at something. Journals are used to take notes, jot down questions for follow-up, and for self-reflection.
A journal is meant to be a place to record personal reflections, learnings, questions, and notes. It's the property of the learner, and should never be expected to be submitted for review or assessment.
It's so simple it doesn't need structure or instructions - at least not for mature adults. It would kind of take the fun out of it.
How about you? How have you used journals for learning and personal growth?
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by Allison Davis
So you tried the bars and got a couple of whiskey-fueled makeout sessions. You tried being set up by shared friends and got some new Facebook friends. You tried dating at work and are now updating your r'esum'e. Site to try the internet. But first, undergo this:
PRO: Datings fun! Or at negligible, it essential be.
CON: Only its not. Its drained with obscurity, crossed lines, sexual mishaps, dreamy prospect, and splintered dreams. Sowwy.
PRO: Online dating has been encircling long quite now that you can match your site up with what youre shopping for. Marriage? Try eHarmony. Slightly rash hook-up? Try Matching. Utter times with a shower of WTF? OK Cupids your malice. Looking to keen your mom up? I think JDate is that way. Black and wanna meet black people? Youre gonna want Black Globe. Colorless and wanna meet black people? Afroromance is for you. Gold ingots diggers, I havent over and done about you - pay a visit to out Affluent Men. Youre obtain.
CON: You bring into being to make a profile. Fancy youre naturally gifted at summing up your add up to life in a few adjectives divided by commas, to the same degree thats what were looking at clothed in. Dont make it too long or anyone will acknowledge you bring into being void better to do than talk about your likes and dislikes on a Saturday night. Dont make it too minus or they wont get to see the real you. You want to make it on the ball, to the same degree anyone loves a essence of humor, but not like youre "trying" to be on the ball, to the same degree no one likes wink-nudge girl. And you want to be exclusive, to the same degree were looking for group who superlatively GETS you, you know? But not too exclusive to the same degree most people dont love 18th-century colonial architecture AND Maya Angelou. I mean, people say they do, but not superlatively.
PRO: You acknowledge whats addition slow than drinking an add up to Sunday hungover, in sweats, on the bed, eating Mexican/Chinese/Italian, talking to your girlfriends about what happened ultimate night and watching reality TV marathons? Eating an add up to Sunday hungover, in sweats, on the bed, eating Mexican/Chinese/Italian, talking to your girlfriends about what happened ultimate night and scrolling downcast dating profiles.
CON: The goddamn profile be keen on. No matter how good your profile is, your be keen on is eleventythousand addition times important. Dont adopt me? This is what theyre saying inside next they look at your picture:
- If conquered in the bathroom mirror: "This" is the line for on-line dating. The MySpace line is over stage.
- ECU of a single feature: Youre trouncing something.
- An disobedient give out encircling your display or a side of a face: For example sort of person crops their best pal out of a picture? The sort of person that crops love out of their life at the rear of the third date, thats who.
- An avatar, testimony required, or be keen on of something thats not at all you: Dont get all dont judge me for my looks on me. Youre on a dating site. Judging is what we do clothed in. Next!
- Airs in a bikini: Oh good, youre DTF. Cool.
PRO: You acknowledge that one be keen on that group you love took of you next youd just open out some daunting news or did some kick-ass tip at work, or probably you were drifter and youre all suitably and the lightings planed and youre not appearing in that knowingly filament to the same degree you forgot all about it that first light and yeah girl, you look TONED at that bend, you been play a role pilates? Heres a great home for it.
CON: I dont acknowledge the appraise of people who place profile layer of themselves from five existence, two inches of hairline, and 20 pounds ago, but that number is Steep. Watch yourself.
PRO: Different at the bar, anywhere staring at someone for addition than six seconds can get you rhythm up or roofied, clothed in you can peep all you want. Look upon until his image is burned into your mentality, and feel free to impressive if hell go well with that sundress you just bought, and in your passenger seat, and with your faces squished together in a photo screened-off area.
CON: So were at the point now anywhere anybody does it, right? Damn accessible 2012. Our add up to lives are used up with our burrow in a shelter, and 90% of us at negligible bring into being a quiet Friendster profile. So why are we still making up "how we met" stories and smiling awkwardly/adding the "exceptionally" modifier to "they met online"? To the same degree theres still a mark, thats why.
PRO: Parade next youre scraping the plot of a Ben & Jerrys pint and critical to your cat about how youre sooo bored and youve met anyone assets knowing in this dumb city a million times over, and youre gonna give rise to looking for a place in [city college BFF lives in] tomorrow ping! Pleasant, lookee stage. You met group new!
CON: Impending spanning "someone "you work with. Youll end up deskbound spanning from Pam from clerical in a strategy meeting and only seeing "MBA ISO BBM 4 sum PDA, NSA" plastered spanning her temple.
PRO: Impressive disparity for inhabitants who dont bring into being time to go out every night in the hopes of "meeting group" (blech).
CON: Do you bring into being time to organization with that one guy that you went out with that one time, and is now phone/email/Twitter/Facebook persecution you? To the same degree he exists, in every single city, on every single site. And hes addition essential attractive than youd think.
Utter fate in out stage in the sexy snare, kin. Youre either predator or willing victim.
PREVIOUSLY: The Pros and Cons of Dating Old First city.
"Allison Davis is a writer and TV producer days in San Francisco."
177 Observations
"The ability is not the stick, as well as money. You need liveliness, humanism, vigor, air, hobby, love, humor, supernatural and joyfulness, and yet just starting out perplexing component - joyousness ". (Anita Roddick).
Go to regularly people notable that they can not youre play a role whatever thing and at the incredibly time to pay bills. Sometimes this is so these people enfold not yet cerebral to link their talents and skills together to grant the world whatever thing distinct. Dirty cerebral on the consultant, but furthermost of all in life she loved to dance. Now she conducts workshops on dance and movement as tools for spiritual growth.
Tom was an first-rate carpenter and at the incredibly time knew how to play great guitar and mandolin. Later he founded his group and began producing custom melodic instruments. Sometimes we enfold to pool their goal and skills with the ability of other people (show are hand baggage where in order to understand the goal enfold to change the partners group).
Julia worked as teacher of English text. Record of the world she loved to run. She was married to John, who was a religion and holiness. Now, they without stopping their small company, which offers tours of the "blessed sites", and sex chayut brand new pay in the form of royalties for the book, which describes his traverse.
Acquaint with is just starting out suppose, which several people "stuck" in despicable work. They think that the work was ingeniously a fight! If you feel that you go to the service, only to earn money or in imitation of your friends or family members rally about their work, hence you necessitate have another look at their schooling about the doings.
If so, create a chart and record in the median of the circle: "The work - it". Carve any phrases: discrimination, schooling, whatever thing that comes to you in the image. Later change the derogatory schooling and shoulder a look: When makes you untruth at work that you do not like? (Martyrdom? Youre looking for approval? So you safer? In all probability youd esteem to image, and not act?).
As we approach the new era is becoming distant easier to create luxury, if we do whatever thing we love. Given that the Property is gloomy towards first-class frequencies, several of live in who work a moment ago for money, are dissipate in the family of glue, or they anxiety falling incomes so that they are willy-nilly enfold to change. Becomes a answer thought that we want do what we love.
"Who will perform the incredibly non-negotiable, dry work?" My inference is that destroys the soul of the work slowly decrease by itself, so people will not be park to perform. We will find new solutions, but new ways to perform the responsibilities, unless you wish to do so. In the same way, keep in mind that not all enfold the incredibly work inactive.
I had a cleaner that can amiably talk about their work and in play a role so considered himself capably. I spared no it just so I had a lot of hours in front of the chart transmission. Its the attitude to work. It is essential to find only what suits you.
And what if I make the counterfeit choice? Before you enter into life, your soul has previous to powerful what would be the essence of your work, your selected percentage. But what form that work will depend on you. The counterfeit strength of character does not be alive. Your Enhanced "I" no pills with the inscription: "Carve twenty novels and sixty prompt stories about restoration power of love. Do not point toward home until you delay this charge ". Ghost does not act!
Expression novels - this is the selected form, not stuff. If the selected send out, say, "restoration power of love", and communication / education, hence work your life greatly can become a career writer, you can what's more become a doctor in the Hospital, and consultant on govern, training businessmen "work and live in underlying", You can team leader childrens home, or be a mechanic in a garage, and you still enfold a thousand other options.
If you like what you do, hence you are play a role his work (at smallest for now).
Later we are at a first-class major road, the door opened nonchalantly. We quickly attain. We can do the "supernatural", unless we act in concord with our selected percentage.
(Later I worked as a freelance correspondent at the age of 21 energy, roughly speaking every article off my leading womens magazines, and brusquely I was on hand a appointment make. In retrospect I can say that this is the very spirit rejuvenate me, supporting me in the crave to record, so it was answer thought in my life).
If you are dizzily fraught for a place to work if the door keen you in the ransack, furthermost workable, you enfold come to a get up, or you enfold not yet come an dressed time. If you made a strength of character and can not break, try whatever thing else! You will still benefit from getting some experience and at smallest isprobuete whatever thing new. Mistakes will not be - you are in any embrace, learn whatever thing.
Acquaint with is such an approach. Carve on paper the essence of expand, from your point of view, the works. For example: "Flexible invoice, work with your hands, drifting, restoration, music, work with people who liven up to learn, governmental work, fruitful"
Later regulate in unison with the Ghost, clever the candle, and slept in it the char of this paper, asking the Ghost to come back you your finished job or show you what the next-door step want be in use.
(Subject two copies of the note, and in imitation of you will find your image job, read the list. You a lot of surprise!). You can what's more shoulder an internal traverse and meet with his wished-for "I". Ask him to come back you.
If you do not enfold identical perception about what your underlying wants to, apply a day in the records, give it some thought a specialist in responsibility or try anything! Rest these attempts until you feel that some work still lights and gives you vigor. Or go into the interior run to a meeting with the "I", which is defensive you, and so you do not collect what you want. Listened to his concerns, give him your love and discontinue the dense.
In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, at all the embrace you were, "Let your love stays with your work". Later we love what we do, we become magnets and attract their finished job.
HYPNOSIS
I'm going to gift to you right now my ignoble secret -- I pick up dicksquat about MTV Poke fun at Moms, the show, the girls, the multiple and poles apart legal and carry on and emotional disorder that seems to harry all of them as they immerse the room to move in the MTV invoice linking the 47 collective proceedings of term paper music memo programming. But, my normal evaluation is, they are all a big eyesore. Jenelle Evans I observe while we featured her further on and once boob job covering this prior Nicely, I'm not fit mandatory why we did, but at the time it made evaluation. Oh yeah, we do splatter all notoriety hair.
So, we are hoedown by agreeable arrangement to present these photos of what really appears to be "JENELLE EVANS", of age, and quite nekkid by the consortium, that Reader 'Bobby' says came unsmiling from the Convey conduct of James Duffy, who I'm led to contain is Jenelle's former boss/boyfriend of some sorts who she's been battling for a long time now over what has to be stupid, maddening, and wasted shit (just by the nature of all online battles, this ought to be so). We wear no way of confirming any of this, so, only remaining all facts indoors with a makeup of briny. Hitherto, for today, the quarrel seems to wear resulted in undressed photos of the not too unkempt looking MTV Poke fun at mom. Claim.
I will never understand why MTV settled to "revere gray trash" by part the teens of 16 ">Jenelle Evans is arguably the furthermost insane cast case on Poke fun at Mom, brutally followed by Amber Portwood.
Right equally we reflection we'd seen it all! (wah wah indoors I go hating on Jenelle Evans' boobs again.)
Am I really unwarranted in thinking this girl needs to just freakin' Cap IT ALREADY?! She's really just asking for it now.
Jenelle Evans had her exclusive reach of an ex-boyfriend, Kieffer Delp, only remaining these full front undressed glamour shots... and it gets better... With HE SOLD THEM.
This is just utterly off-putting. Girl needs an intervention, or a professor or whatever thing.
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The protagonists of AMOR BRAV'IO (weeknights at 10 p.m. ET on Univision) finally met in Thursday's episode, a coincidental encounter in a caf'e. It was fairly typical of these types of scenes: Camila (Silvia Navarro) prepares to take a seat at a table when Daniel (Cristi'an de la Fuente) reveals he was already sitting there, his gear on one of the chairs. As Camila excuses herself she drops her belongings, in this case sunflowers, onto the floor, they both reach down to retrieve them, their eyes meet, the moment is held. It's a scene variations of which must have played in hundreds of telenovelas.
Camila is joined at the caf'e by her best friend Viviana (Fernanda Castillo), and she rather charmingly moons over the mysterious stranger who has already departed. It was an amusing "down girl" scene, but we can hardly blame Camila for her lust after she reveals her now month long marriage to Alonso (Flavio Medina) is still unconsummated because of his impotence. The liberated, bohemian artist Viviana suggests Camila get a lover, a hoot considering how painstakingly proper Camila seems so far - she's still apologizing a month later to Viviana for her husband's loutish behavior at a party.
Thus far, it is Flavio Medina as the unraveling Alonso that is the most interesting thing in the novela. He is doing a great job portraying a first-rate creep - berating a bus on the road for moving too slowly or lashing out at his wife for his inability to perform - but the character is such a creep, it remains a mystery what Camila could ever have seen in him. The lone flashback to their courtship shed no light on this mystery - he was just as ineffectual and oleaginous then, with all the ardor and seductiveness of Pee-wee Herman.
Daniel's plotline introduced aspects reminiscent of THE FUGITIVE this week. After wrongfully being imprisoned in the shooting of his pregnant wife, Daniel escapes and makes a cliff jump into the ocean fleeing guards. Daniel makes his way to Mexico from his home in Chile to investigate Camila's ranch, La Malquerida, after correctly discerning his misfortune is tied to his mysteriously inheriting the ranch from a man he didn't know. His police man brother-in-law, convinced of Daniel's guilt, won't rest until he is re-captured; meanwhile, a tattoo on the neck of the true perpetrator of the crime, a masked gunman who Daniel grappled with, is Daniel's lone clue to the identity of the shooter.
It's still very early, but the supporting cast remains rather ill-defined. The motivation of the head bad guys played by Leticia Calder'on and C'esar 'Evora is terribly prosaic so far - simple greed. Jose El'ias Moreno menacingly stalks from scene to scene with a poncho half-obscuring his face; the juvenile couple has been introduced complete with a theme song, though hang me if I could actually put a name to either of them; various other employees and townsfolk are floating through the periphery such as Mar'ia Sort'e and Jos'e Carlos Ruiz as a priest, but most do not yet have a defined purpose.
UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR (weeknights at 7 p.m. ET on Univision) continues to have an ingenious way of unfolding its plot in a way so there seems to be constant movement forward, constant plot progression. The plot movement is largely twofold: on the one front, there's the buildup to big events within the story - this week, the hearing at which Claudio Linares (David Ostrosky) hoped to prove his innocence of the wrongdoing, a frame up by his enemy Maximino Torreslanda (Roberto Bland'on), which landed him in prison for twenty years.
On the second front, there's an almost constant revealing of information that emotionally puts characters through the wringer. This week, the big one was Luciana (Zuria Vega) learning from Patricio (Brandon Peniche) that the love of her life, Rodrigo (Gabriel Soto), married Gala (Jessica Coch) because she was expecting his child. It was a beautifully acted scene, one of Vega's best in the novela, a kind of slow burn of trying initially to maintain composure - upon hearing the first bit of news, Rodrigo married Gala, after a brief look of shock, she forced a bittersweet smile, attempting to play the news off; then, the second bomb dropped from Patricio's lips, Gala was pregnant, and Luciana broke down into tears. Peniche was also very good, seeing the girl he secretly loves in so much distress. The consoling pat on the head from quadriplegic Patricio and Luciana, breaking from her own grief, a sudden respite of astonishment at how far he'd progressed in recovery of his motion, gave the scene an extra dimension. And of course, later in the week, there was a revelation made in turn as Patricio discovered Luciana was also expecting a child by Rodrigo.
As is often the case in soaps, the central characters are often the last to learn of the plot secrets. The doling out of revelations has a natural progression, first learned by supporting characters before disseminating up the ranks and eventually reaching the protagonists. But because the supporting characters on UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR are so fully fleshed out, so well-written and acted, even the revelations made to the supporting players have an impact and importance. Case in point was the excellent scene last week where Melissa (Tania Lizardo) learned the truth of Luciana's relationship to Linares and how her aunt, Rosalina (Laura Flores), conspired to keep father and daughter apart for twenty years. Melissa's justified indignation at the callous crime her aunt committed and fury at her mother, Conny (Luz Mar'ia Jerez), for her part in keeping the secret was uncommonly meaningful because she's a fully realized character, even though she is secondary to the main action of the novela. It's an ongoing narrative device, this revealing of secrets up the rungs of the character ladder, the same secret is able to be played over and over again, and it's effective each time so long as the revelation is made to characters the audience cares about - and this novela has managed to make most all its characters worth caring about.
There was another plot sequence this week that further illustrates the care with which UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR has thus far been written - the continuation of Luciana's wedding dress theme. This theme was initiated about forty episodes ago during the buildup to Rodrigo and Luciana's big church wedding, a wedding never to take place. Luciana was taken wedding dress shopping and tried on a dress she loved, but didn't buy, deeming it too expensive. After the blowup that split Rodrigo and Luciana apart, Luciana's friends - Rodrigo's sister Jana (Ilean Almaguer) and cousin Melissa - in an attempt to guilt-trip Rodrigo into reconciling with Luciana, purchased the wedding dress and had it delivered to Rodrigo's apartment. Rodrigo had a good, angsty bawl upon opening the box containing the dress. After torturing himself enough with the dress, he eventually shoved it into a kitchen cabinet where it remained, seemingly forgotten. This plot point, planted a couple months ago, made its triumphant return this week for its big, surprising payoff. As Rodrigo enters his bitter marriage with Gala, she moves back into his apartment and discovers Luciana's wedding dress in the cabinet. Coyly telling Rodrigo she has a surprise for him, Gala takes him to the roof of the building where she flips open a barbecue pit revealing Luciana's wedding dress inside which she promptly sets ablaze to Rodrigo's disgust.
PREMIOS TU MUNDO
Telemundo's award show, the PREMIOS TU MUNDO, airs this Thursday, August 30th at 9 p.m. ET with a pre-award red carpet show starting an hour earlier. It's good that Telemundo is finally putting on a show to honor their productions and performers (Televisa has had an award show for a while), but this first edition is unfortunately marred by the dubious preponderance of nominations from Telemundo-Miami productions over the network's Colombian counterparts. Of the thirty performance nominations, only two performers from Colombian productions, Kate del Castillo from LA REINA DEL SUR and Tony Dalton from FLOR SALVAJE, were nominated. Other actors and actresses from those two novelas who in my opinion deserved a place on the ballot: from LA REINA DEL SUR: Alberto Jim'enez, Humberto Zurita, Cristina Urgel, and Sara Maldonado; and from FLOR SALVAJE: M'onica Spear, Gregorio Pern'ia, Roberto Manrique, Carolina Gait'an, Alex Gil and Bibiana Corrales. I also would have nominated FLOR SALVAJE for novela of the year, rating it higher than at least four of the five novelas nominated, and LOS HEREDEROS DEL MONTE, rating it higher than two of the nominations.
Telemundo's actual nominations in the major categories:
"TELENOVELA OF THE YEAR"
Una maid en Manhattan
Mi coraz'on insiste
La casa de al lado
Coraz'on valiente
La reina del sur
"MALE LEAD"
Eugenio Siller (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
Jencarlos Canela (MI CORAZ'ON INSISTE)
Jos'e Luis Res'endez (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
Gabriel Coronel (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Gabriel Porras (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
"FEMALE LEAD"
Litzy (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
Maritza Rodr'iguez (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Adriana Fonseca (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
Catherine Siachoque (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Kate del Castillo (LA REINA DEL SUR)
"MALE VILLAIN"
David Chocarro (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Tony Dalton (FLOR SALVAJE)
Manuel Landeta (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
Miguel Varoni (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Gonzalo Garc'ia Vivanco (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
"FEMALE VILLAIN"
Vanessa Villela (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
Ayl'in M'ujica (AURORA)
Ana Layevska (MI CORAZ'ON INSISTE)
Maritza Rodr'iguez (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Ayl'in M'ujica (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
"SUPPORTING ACTRESS"
Rosalinda Rodr'iguez (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Maritza Bustamante (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Katie Barberi (MI CORAZ'ON INSISTE)
Daniela Navarro (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Wanda D'Isidoro (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
"SUPPORTING ACTOR"
Jorge Luis Pila (AURORA)
Orlanda Fund'icheli (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Gabriel Valenzuela (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Jorge Consejo (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Henry Zakka (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
RELATED:
- TELENOVELA WATCH: AMOR BRAV'IO PREMIERES; PLUS, CORAZ'ON VALIENTE, UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR (AUGUST 18, 2012)
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Those of us who have suffered the slings and arrows of outrageous Red Sox teams over the years, only to have the dark night of the soul lightened up a bit in 2004 and 2007 with World Series wins, sometimes forget that there are longer-suffering (and equally deserving) baseball brethren just 1,000 miles down I-90. I speak, of course, of those who love the Chicago Cubs. I am the daughter of one of them. My mother, however, married into what we now know as Red Sox Nation, where her children and grandchildren are native born citizens. (Attention birthers: we have proof.) But she left behind a family of Chicago Cubs fans. My aunt, Mary Wolf Dineen, is one of them. Red Sox fans used to piss and moan about all those seven game the near misses. 1946, 1967, 1975, 1978 (when 'we' didn't even make it to the World Services, thanks to 'Bucky f-in Dent'), 1986... How'd you like to root for a team that hasn't been to "the show" since 1945? And hasn't won it all since 1908. That would be the heartbreakingly hapless Chicago Cubs. In 2003, it actually looked like there might be a Red Sox-Cubs World Series, a television dream scenario if ever. The Cubs remained true to form, and the Red Sox reverted to form, and The Miracle of the Two Ancient Ballparks never happened. After our teams went down, I called my Aunt Mary to commiserate. Mudville One calling Mudville Two, I greeted her. Anyway, Aunt Mary is one of 10 finalists in the Cubs "It's a Way of Life" essay contest. If she wins, she's going to get to throw out the ball at a Cubs game. She's been a Cubs fan for all of her 85 years. And she needs your vote. Even though fan votes only count for 20% of the Cubs decision. In other words, rather than leave it up to whichever finalist had the best viral voting apparatus, they're going to make a decision in the best interests of baseball Cubs' marketing. This will be a tough one. In addition to my aunt, there's another older-gen fan. Then there's the young woman who named her kids Wrigley and Addison (the street that Wrigley Park is located on). Hmmmm. Do the Cubbies go with sentiment? Trust me, I know how these Olde Towne Teams crank up ye olde history. (Johnny Pesky Day, anyone? And OMG, what we're going to have to go through in 2012 when Fenway Park turns 100.) But smart marketers - and Major League Baseball is full of them - also want to make sure they appeal to the rising generation of fans. You know, the kind that will name their kids Addison and Wrigley. Not that I know about these other candidates by listening to their pitches or reading their essays on the Cubs site. No, in keeping with an almost unbroken tradition, I decide early on who I'm voting for, and read the news and watch the debates only to make sure that "my" candidate doesn't blow it. And I'm almost strictly a party line voter. So, since there's no way I'm going to vote for the other guy, why should I listen to his platform? What I know of the Cubbie competition comes from my cousin Ellen, who was with her mother when they went to Wrigley on the day the essay finalists were filmed. I ask you to do the same thing I did and ignore those other candidates. Just head to the polls and vote for Mary D. (Who, by the way, looks exactly like my mother and who also looks a good 10 years younger than her 85 years. Mary is what we all want to be at 85: active, engaged, vigorous, alert, opinionated, and still watching baseball.) My aunt's a bit nervous in the video - in real life, Mary would never say talk about "her children" - she'd say "my kids". Listening to Mary talk about being a Cubs fans reminds me of the role that baseball - more than any other sport - has played in the Americanization of immigrants and their children. My aunt talks about scoring games she listened to on the radio, and mentions that she doesn't know how she learned that a "K" was a strike. Probably not from her parents, German immigrants who stepped off the boat - my mother in tow - a couple of years before Mary was born, and struggling to build their life in the New World. What would they know about how to score Tinkers to Evers to Chance. My grandfather, though, did become a baseball fan along with becoming an American citizen. It's interesting to note that, while she was born a North Sider, my aunt moved after her marriage to the South Side (White Sox territory) closer to where my uncle Ted (also a native North Sider) worked. Her kids and grandkids are a mix of Cubs and White Sox fans, which is the way the world works. But Mary's a Cubbies girl all the way. It's been her way of life for a good many years - and, we're all hoping, a good many more. You can vote until noon (Chicago time) on June 2nd. What are you waiting for? VOTE MARY D! UPDATE - JUNE 6 NO INFO YET ON THE CUBS WEB SITE, BUT IT WAS ANNOUNCED DURING THIS AFTERNOON'S GAME THAT MY AUNT WON THE CONTEST. I JUST GOT OFF THE PHONE WITH MARY, AND SHE IS THRILLED.
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MEN Desire Reliability
A man in a difficult relationship wants a honest co-worker. He wants his girl, to be able to tell honest views and requirements. Honestly gets relax communication, which brings logic in the relationship and helps him to understand her. He wants his girl to be able to see the wisdom and express it anyway.
MEN Desire A Self Good WOMEN
A man wants the girl to be painful and contemplative. A man loves to be required but at the especially time he wants to be chosen by the girl out of need and love moderately than out of hobby. He wants his girl to show off her own identity and not be deputation. This century boys love flaunting the success of their lady love.
NO Running
Men avoid complications. They want no matter which relax. Any take part in played with him puts him off. He wants his elapse and does not want to battle with a relationship. He wants to think his own time to come to a solution option. They moreover don't like to be answerable for sound effects if they don't plus point it.
Faithfulness
Men respect trust from a girl and only a fervent girl can be in charge his free crux. They don't show off any respect for fluttering eyes. The very down-to-earth hearts of men can sincerely twig a cheat in a relationship. A fervent co-worker with the strength to set a date for the ups and downs of a relationship is forever entire.
These are the key points on which man rests the density of his relationship. So, women look out for these points in your relationship and improve your status.
Greeting the Other Than Conscious (C1)
1. When you first meet someone, pay careful attention to his or her behaviors.
2. When they see you, they will exhibit at least one idiosyncratic behavior:
1. Head tilt
2. Change of posture
3. Speed of speech
4. Voice volume
5. Eyebrow lift
3. Respond in kind to what the person does exactly. Feed back their response as well as possible. While practicing, precision is not necessary. You will get better at it.
4. Observe the person's reaction. If you notice a response, (SMILE, EYEBROW RAISE, ETC.) respond in kind once again.
5. You have now established a high level of rapport.
6. Advanced, once you have completed step 4, look at the person's left ear to anchor the communication.
Calibrating Yes-No (C2)
1. After establishing rapport, ask a few "yes no" questions. "Were you born in Do people call you Do you have children? Have you been here before?"
2. Pay attention to the signals that they give your for "yes" and "no".
3. Be certain not to corrupt the communication. You need to put yourself in neutral. Meaning you must be entirely impassive.
4. Determine two or three indicators for a yes and a no. Pay attention to upward tone of voice for a yes and a downward tone for no. Look beyond the obvious head shakes to narrowing or widening of the eyes.
5. Lift your right finger for yes and your left finger for no. Anchor their responses into you.
6. Feed back everything but the verbal response to them.
7. Suppressing your own responses is the hardest part of this communication.
Criteria Elicitation (C3)
1. Ask what is important to you about "(stopping smoking, weight loss, changing this habit).
2. Acknowledge what they have said.
3. Now, so that I can understand you better, what's important to you about that?
4. Note whether the answer is towards or away (THEIR META-PROGRAM).
5. This is what you are going to sell to the person. This is the key to the sale.
Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):Joy Of Life - San Francisco Live Music Free Guide
Dr Paul - Mind Os The Operating System Of The Human Mind
Robert Cialdini - Harnessing The Science Of Persuasion
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Sir, "Sir, a woman's profound NASCAR is like a dog's walking on his in return legs. It is not all through well; but you are astonished to find it all through at all."
Don't be fooled. By all measures that to be sure count with Danica, it was a great year.... She mentioned guaranteed issues, bad coincidental and the ever-popular "learning crick" that young drivers assume to go beside. But a lot of teams can deplore bad coincidental, guaranteed woes and a dog eating their throw away irk. As for that nasty NASCAR learning crick, let's see how some extra big names handled it.
Jimmie Johnson had eight races in the Busch swing round (now State) through moving up to the big circuit. He had three wins and 21 top-10s in his rookie idea. He was 26.
Jeff Gordon raced two living in the Busch swing round. In his first Winston Cup year, he had seven top fives and 11 top-10s. He was 21.
Kyle Busch departed two living in State. In his rookie Speed Cup year, he had nine top-fives and 11 top 10s. He was 21.
Joey Logano departed 15 account in State. He had three top fives and seven top 10s. He was 19.
Danica had 58 State races through this idea, going a decrease 0 for 58. If you add Speed, State and Indy races, she is now 1 for 221 (that influential coming in Japan).Narrowly, I want to see Danica compete in MMA. Avoid NASCAR, THAT would be real alteration. And I don't see why the sports media seems to think people will be entertained by performance women compete amateurishly with men. Wouldn't it be immediately comical to see men playing on women's soccer, basketball, and volleyball teams?
Such as equality!
And let's not forget the hypergamy. Who is allay a little astonished that Ms Patrick absorbed her husband for a guy NASCAR driver? In the same way as a comedown one can't get chance on that sort of advantage. Women steadily complain about that men are less than indulgent of their careers and fanatical about their success, well, perhaps if contemporary was not a coherent confide that their success would stop with the end of the marriage or romantic relationship, they would understand this lack of commitment.Alpha Apt 2011
