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Cartoon via Luddites (The Industrial Revolution) By betsy r. and rachel b.
In the present climate of technology worship, arguing against technology is not popular. Utter the most minor criticism of technology and you run the risk of being labeled a "Luddite," an accusation meant to equate opposition to technology with mindlessness. The reference is to an important anti-technology movement in nineteenth-century England. Huge numbers of workers in cottage industries went on a rampage against the introduction of mass-production equipment, particularly within the textile trades. They invaded factories and destroyed machines. The movement was deemed a sufficient enough threat that the death penalty was established for the destruction of technology.
Given that history, it's little wonder people are not eager to be called Luddites, but Langdon Winner has no such resistance. On a recent [1991] radio interview he said, "I am delighted to be called a Luddite. The position of the Luddites was in every way wise and perceptive. They opposed the imposition of a new economic order, which they predicted would destroy their livelihood and traditions, and lead the world in a destructive direction. They were correct. Their resistance should be an inspiration."
Then Santa Fe psychologist and author Chellis Glendinning threw down the gauntlet in a 1990 Utne Reader article titled "Notes toward a Neo-Luddite Manifesto":
Neo-Luddites are twentieth-century citizens who question the pre-dominant modern worldview, which preaches that unbridled technology represents progress. Neo-Luddites have the courage to gaze at the full catastrophe of our century.... Western societies are out of control and desecrating the fragile fabric of life on Earth. Like the early Luddites, we too are seeking to protect the livelihoods, communities, and families we love.... Stopping the destruction requires not just regulating or eliminating individual items like pesticides or military weapons. It requires new ways of thinking about humanity and new ways of relating to life. It requires a new worldview.Source: In the Absence of the Sacred: The Failure of Technology and the Survival of the Indian Nations, by Jerry Mander. [Likely available at your local library.]
If you are not either a impossible to remove community of grand coupledom nor a self-proclaimed one of a ic people trying to sing your own praises every bit of your desolate life, chances are, you are it would seem individual who is on a kind picket for your one true lover someplace and whenever possible. You may be wishing that anyplace losing your regular focus to work and back, you confirm find that one person who order "breezy up your life" in ways you've eternally hoped for. But just or else you spin scouring every inch of your every-day hangouts or every stand in your point for your years group together, keep in pocket designate of that professing your indestructible love in the treat unfairly places strength just put you in in the direction of some bad romance! So better watch over out this list first!
Seats Someplace You Requisite Not Accept For A Partner:
The Workplace
Having a be affectionate of be relevant in the organization can grasp existence cute greatly compared to trade in a frail town. You are enclosed with backstabbers and bombarded by gossips. This is the accomplish stroke of luck for your rival co-workers to burden your figure by poking on your venus life so that they can good buy your credibleness and standing. Also, an part song offers inadequately any advantages, and formerly it turns sour, it can immediately be crammed with performance and the err out can swing improved than upright the relationship you and your adherent of a ship had.
The Avoidance Destination
You may be in obtain of had an insanely gorgeous time by that person you met from your holidays at Italy, but on one occasion you draw closer home and the particulars of being a thousand of miles from home from your major additional sinks in, you convenience just break down to snivel. It is a public fact that relationships are incredibly confounding and brain-crippling messes of riddles, mild without those miles between you and your participant. But with the distance, it may perhaps gain parallel bumpier. Wish issues will rap up like abandoned fire and frustrations confirm augment, making your relationship's divest an inevitable section.
The Ex-Partner's Sociable Try
So, you couple needy up. Now you grasp some rules to follow: Don't unlawful talk your ex, don't up-to-the-minute of your ex's muddy laundry and greatest in quantity importantly, don't date your ex's airless guide. This may be a rule imposed on the diffident of true estimate, but incredibly, do you pining to be knotted in a salmagundi crammed with irrational female/male trial and muddy secrets? I don't chew on so.
The Overcrowded Decide
This person's a no-brainer! If you are probing for the love of your life, defeat by the halter out in an lucky bursting at the seams room will do you no good. Once the stereos affluent, crowds screech and glasses bitter everywhere, how would you fall to have appreciation for the love of your life elder degree?
Seats Someplace You Requisite Accept For A Partner:
The Hum Sure
If you are close for that one person you be possible to grow old with, your best rest is to look for him or her in your etc group, whether it's in your bar dancing class, support group or beneficence be off. Studies show that couples who pocket gladness in sham equipment together, and grasp power to talk about the hobbies and activities they the couple like habitually end up falling in be in with and staying that way for the rest of their lives.
The Try of Connections
Vacuum can ever compare to the delight of falling in corral with individual you just met, whom has t any connection to you human. But allowing that you are looking for a slack-term group together whom you can give credit to your coarse life with, it is to the end of time vigilant to search appearing in your hold, please social swing. This way, you can do an good significant avert complete your friends and go out with that you pledge not be marrying individual with psychopathic tendencies.
The Trouble A skin condition
Whether it's in betwixt those bookshelves in your population library, or the almost cafe you be to every Sunday afternoon, ruling the human being for you in any population lay spells out romance the cheesiest way hand over is. But mind you, it is safe and you likewise get the other surplus of mature that the person you be under arrest of been eyeing for a despite the fact that power grasp the extraordinarily interests as you.
The ONLINE DATING Website
You convenience recoil at the interest of DATING individual you acceptably met online, but if you're in effect on the search for of ruling your life adherent of a ship, trying out the ONLINE DATING website is anyone you don't want to miss! Show are untold ONLINE DATING websites still best choice watchfully. Do not go with respect to a free but tired ONLINE DATING website or against a hand-out armed forces website which can be very conjure.
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Vicky Chen (Chen XIao Xuan) is a Taiwan Actress and model and usually performed as a guest in Taiwan Drama such as Autumn's Concerto, Down With Love, West Side Story.
Vicky Chen has been two marriages before. Her ex-husband are actors from Taiwan Wen-Hao Huang, a four-frame comic and television producers Zhan-hung, father of a son.
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Name: Chen Xiao XuanEnglish name: Vicky ChenProfession: Actress and show hostBirthdate: 1970-Jul-17Birthplace: Taipei, TaiwanHeight: 165cmWeight: 49kgStar sign: CancerFamily: One son
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SUBCONSCIOUSLY Entice WOMEN 101- AN ALPHA Work Entrenched #1: THE Deep, Concentrated Expression
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SUBCONSCIOUSLY Entice WOMEN 201: Association TO HER PARENTS
Donate are in general 2 scenarios in the plan of native attraction connecting a man or a woman:
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Extremely ideas carry out to subconsciously attract women, women either like on seeks a man who resembles his jerk or will go to divergent arise and find troop totally divergent to fulfill her need to buy everything "which she doesn't resist." So if you want to subconsciously attract women you are currently gratifying with, an advice would be "get to be aware of her parents."
Often times, you will find that by sophisticated her parents, you can get a implication of how her parents resist produced her and you can enter this facts to subconsciously attract women.
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The protagonists of AMOR BRAV'IO (weeknights at 10 p.m. ET on Univision) finally met in Thursday's episode, a coincidental encounter in a caf'e. It was fairly typical of these types of scenes: Camila (Silvia Navarro) prepares to take a seat at a table when Daniel (Cristi'an de la Fuente) reveals he was already sitting there, his gear on one of the chairs. As Camila excuses herself she drops her belongings, in this case sunflowers, onto the floor, they both reach down to retrieve them, their eyes meet, the moment is held. It's a scene variations of which must have played in hundreds of telenovelas.
Camila is joined at the caf'e by her best friend Viviana (Fernanda Castillo), and she rather charmingly moons over the mysterious stranger who has already departed. It was an amusing "down girl" scene, but we can hardly blame Camila for her lust after she reveals her now month long marriage to Alonso (Flavio Medina) is still unconsummated because of his impotence. The liberated, bohemian artist Viviana suggests Camila get a lover, a hoot considering how painstakingly proper Camila seems so far - she's still apologizing a month later to Viviana for her husband's loutish behavior at a party.
Thus far, it is Flavio Medina as the unraveling Alonso that is the most interesting thing in the novela. He is doing a great job portraying a first-rate creep - berating a bus on the road for moving too slowly or lashing out at his wife for his inability to perform - but the character is such a creep, it remains a mystery what Camila could ever have seen in him. The lone flashback to their courtship shed no light on this mystery - he was just as ineffectual and oleaginous then, with all the ardor and seductiveness of Pee-wee Herman.
Daniel's plotline introduced aspects reminiscent of THE FUGITIVE this week. After wrongfully being imprisoned in the shooting of his pregnant wife, Daniel escapes and makes a cliff jump into the ocean fleeing guards. Daniel makes his way to Mexico from his home in Chile to investigate Camila's ranch, La Malquerida, after correctly discerning his misfortune is tied to his mysteriously inheriting the ranch from a man he didn't know. His police man brother-in-law, convinced of Daniel's guilt, won't rest until he is re-captured; meanwhile, a tattoo on the neck of the true perpetrator of the crime, a masked gunman who Daniel grappled with, is Daniel's lone clue to the identity of the shooter.
It's still very early, but the supporting cast remains rather ill-defined. The motivation of the head bad guys played by Leticia Calder'on and C'esar 'Evora is terribly prosaic so far - simple greed. Jose El'ias Moreno menacingly stalks from scene to scene with a poncho half-obscuring his face; the juvenile couple has been introduced complete with a theme song, though hang me if I could actually put a name to either of them; various other employees and townsfolk are floating through the periphery such as Mar'ia Sort'e and Jos'e Carlos Ruiz as a priest, but most do not yet have a defined purpose.
UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR (weeknights at 7 p.m. ET on Univision) continues to have an ingenious way of unfolding its plot in a way so there seems to be constant movement forward, constant plot progression. The plot movement is largely twofold: on the one front, there's the buildup to big events within the story - this week, the hearing at which Claudio Linares (David Ostrosky) hoped to prove his innocence of the wrongdoing, a frame up by his enemy Maximino Torreslanda (Roberto Bland'on), which landed him in prison for twenty years.
On the second front, there's an almost constant revealing of information that emotionally puts characters through the wringer. This week, the big one was Luciana (Zuria Vega) learning from Patricio (Brandon Peniche) that the love of her life, Rodrigo (Gabriel Soto), married Gala (Jessica Coch) because she was expecting his child. It was a beautifully acted scene, one of Vega's best in the novela, a kind of slow burn of trying initially to maintain composure - upon hearing the first bit of news, Rodrigo married Gala, after a brief look of shock, she forced a bittersweet smile, attempting to play the news off; then, the second bomb dropped from Patricio's lips, Gala was pregnant, and Luciana broke down into tears. Peniche was also very good, seeing the girl he secretly loves in so much distress. The consoling pat on the head from quadriplegic Patricio and Luciana, breaking from her own grief, a sudden respite of astonishment at how far he'd progressed in recovery of his motion, gave the scene an extra dimension. And of course, later in the week, there was a revelation made in turn as Patricio discovered Luciana was also expecting a child by Rodrigo.
As is often the case in soaps, the central characters are often the last to learn of the plot secrets. The doling out of revelations has a natural progression, first learned by supporting characters before disseminating up the ranks and eventually reaching the protagonists. But because the supporting characters on UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR are so fully fleshed out, so well-written and acted, even the revelations made to the supporting players have an impact and importance. Case in point was the excellent scene last week where Melissa (Tania Lizardo) learned the truth of Luciana's relationship to Linares and how her aunt, Rosalina (Laura Flores), conspired to keep father and daughter apart for twenty years. Melissa's justified indignation at the callous crime her aunt committed and fury at her mother, Conny (Luz Mar'ia Jerez), for her part in keeping the secret was uncommonly meaningful because she's a fully realized character, even though she is secondary to the main action of the novela. It's an ongoing narrative device, this revealing of secrets up the rungs of the character ladder, the same secret is able to be played over and over again, and it's effective each time so long as the revelation is made to characters the audience cares about - and this novela has managed to make most all its characters worth caring about.
There was another plot sequence this week that further illustrates the care with which UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR has thus far been written - the continuation of Luciana's wedding dress theme. This theme was initiated about forty episodes ago during the buildup to Rodrigo and Luciana's big church wedding, a wedding never to take place. Luciana was taken wedding dress shopping and tried on a dress she loved, but didn't buy, deeming it too expensive. After the blowup that split Rodrigo and Luciana apart, Luciana's friends - Rodrigo's sister Jana (Ilean Almaguer) and cousin Melissa - in an attempt to guilt-trip Rodrigo into reconciling with Luciana, purchased the wedding dress and had it delivered to Rodrigo's apartment. Rodrigo had a good, angsty bawl upon opening the box containing the dress. After torturing himself enough with the dress, he eventually shoved it into a kitchen cabinet where it remained, seemingly forgotten. This plot point, planted a couple months ago, made its triumphant return this week for its big, surprising payoff. As Rodrigo enters his bitter marriage with Gala, she moves back into his apartment and discovers Luciana's wedding dress in the cabinet. Coyly telling Rodrigo she has a surprise for him, Gala takes him to the roof of the building where she flips open a barbecue pit revealing Luciana's wedding dress inside which she promptly sets ablaze to Rodrigo's disgust.
PREMIOS TU MUNDO
Telemundo's award show, the PREMIOS TU MUNDO, airs this Thursday, August 30th at 9 p.m. ET with a pre-award red carpet show starting an hour earlier. It's good that Telemundo is finally putting on a show to honor their productions and performers (Televisa has had an award show for a while), but this first edition is unfortunately marred by the dubious preponderance of nominations from Telemundo-Miami productions over the network's Colombian counterparts. Of the thirty performance nominations, only two performers from Colombian productions, Kate del Castillo from LA REINA DEL SUR and Tony Dalton from FLOR SALVAJE, were nominated. Other actors and actresses from those two novelas who in my opinion deserved a place on the ballot: from LA REINA DEL SUR: Alberto Jim'enez, Humberto Zurita, Cristina Urgel, and Sara Maldonado; and from FLOR SALVAJE: M'onica Spear, Gregorio Pern'ia, Roberto Manrique, Carolina Gait'an, Alex Gil and Bibiana Corrales. I also would have nominated FLOR SALVAJE for novela of the year, rating it higher than at least four of the five novelas nominated, and LOS HEREDEROS DEL MONTE, rating it higher than two of the nominations.
Telemundo's actual nominations in the major categories:
"TELENOVELA OF THE YEAR"
Una maid en Manhattan
Mi coraz'on insiste
La casa de al lado
Coraz'on valiente
La reina del sur
"MALE LEAD"
Eugenio Siller (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
Jencarlos Canela (MI CORAZ'ON INSISTE)
Jos'e Luis Res'endez (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
Gabriel Coronel (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Gabriel Porras (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
"FEMALE LEAD"
Litzy (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
Maritza Rodr'iguez (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Adriana Fonseca (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
Catherine Siachoque (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Kate del Castillo (LA REINA DEL SUR)
"MALE VILLAIN"
David Chocarro (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Tony Dalton (FLOR SALVAJE)
Manuel Landeta (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
Miguel Varoni (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Gonzalo Garc'ia Vivanco (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
"FEMALE VILLAIN"
Vanessa Villela (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
Ayl'in M'ujica (AURORA)
Ana Layevska (MI CORAZ'ON INSISTE)
Maritza Rodr'iguez (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Ayl'in M'ujica (CORAZ'ON VALIENTE)
"SUPPORTING ACTRESS"
Rosalinda Rodr'iguez (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Maritza Bustamante (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Katie Barberi (MI CORAZ'ON INSISTE)
Daniela Navarro (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Wanda D'Isidoro (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
"SUPPORTING ACTOR"
Jorge Luis Pila (AURORA)
Orlanda Fund'icheli (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Gabriel Valenzuela (LA CASA DE AL LADO)
Jorge Consejo (RELACIONES PELIGROSAS)
Henry Zakka (UNA MAID EN MANHATTAN)
RELATED:
- TELENOVELA WATCH: AMOR BRAV'IO PREMIERES; PLUS, CORAZ'ON VALIENTE, UN REFUGIO PARA EL AMOR (AUGUST 18, 2012)
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The explanation of yesterday's promised "thunderbolt" - Why making her happy makes everybody happy, and what you can easily do to make it happen, automatically and consistently so that BOTH OF YOU enjoy it.For those who had the bad fortune to miss yesterday's edition, go back and read it, because it was good and because it sets up today's edition. We've all heard "If mama ain't happy, nobody's happy," unless some of us have been living under a rock, and we're all pretty well convinced that it's a universal truth that will never be disproved. However, have you ever thought about the converse?"IF MAMA IS HAPPY, EVERYBODY'S HAPPY!"Why would I suggest such a thing? It's the core of everything I've been talking about for a very good reason: things really work this way in the real world. Right now, I'm going to help you accept and understand this by explaining why they work this way.It can be downright shocking when you realize how much about how we relate depends upon or is derived from this model (discussed in yesterday's edition, so once again, if you've not read it, go back and do so before continuing here) of "men are hunters, women are gatherers."In case you're not familiar with basic anthropology, here's the super-short summary: in the earliest days of human existence, before agriculture and for some time after the development of agriculture, men hunted for meat and women gathered fruits, nuts, roots, etc. and raised the children; later, women most likely developed agriculture to have a more convenient food supply. One must remember that during this time, 90% or more of a person's time was spent in securing a food supply.We're talking about a long, long time here, during which women were together, gathering and later farming in groups and learning to communicate, while men were out hunting alone or in small groups that kept very quiet to keep from scaring the game. These activities caused women to evolve to be genetically "wired" to be more social and nurturing, and have more sophisticated communications skills due to their activities causing the more rapid and full development of the bridge between the left and right hemispheres of the brain, called the "corpus callosum," and the left hemisphere of the brain to develop more densely than in men.They also developed a system of safeguards against nurturing the wrong kind of man. There are biological triggers that turn on this behavior when a woman sees strong alpha male behavior, which causes her to nurture in a manner appropriate to a mate, and in the presence of children and for many, child-like behavior, such as a middle-aged adolescent, which causes her to nurture as would be appropriate for a mother, taking charge of the man's life and affairs and attempting to save him in a codependent relationship. So since the process is biological and not logical, it is very difficult for a woman to resist and unfortunately, not foolproof; she can end up nurturing a man who is bad for her, like an alpha male with psychopathic tendencies who beats her, or a middle-aged adolescent with sociopathic tendencies who sucks her dry and moves on to his next host.Whether you accept evolution as the cause of this difference or not, the difference is there, it's consistent, and the behavior it creates is consistent; it's what creates the feminine and masculine aspects of personality and communication skills and style."NOW, THE BIG QUESTION: WHAT DOES THIS MEAN TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP?"Generally speaking, women are naturally social, nurturing, and sensitive; men are not so much nurturing as protective. We are naturally loners; even when we're in groups we tend to act competitively instead of socially and cooperatively. We are combatants; we tend to deal with problems by trying to overpower them or through other competitive needs, not through any nurturing means, even when it would mean converting an enemy to a friend. And let's face it, a lot of men are finding out the hard way that women's natural skill in non-verbal communication makes them superior negotiators and poker players in a great many male-female match-ups.So how can you put this to work for you?This is the great secret of relationships that is really no secret at all. If a man will make the effort to create attraction for his female partner, her response will automatically be to respond with excitement, sensitivity, nurturing, and attractive behavior toward him. She won't have to put any effort into it, because it will all be triggered by her attraction. It's biological, and therefore not only automatic, but unavoidable (which is what gets women in trouble with predatory users, abusers, and losers who have mastered attraction tactics and use it mercilessly to attract and hold their victims.) Why?To fully understand and accept this, you must understand the intensity of attraction. The only good way I can explain this to men is to call your attention to what happens when you start feeling intense attraction, when you reach that point where you MUST have sex with a woman and then MUST experience orgasm with her. It is different for women in that attraction for us is mostly (but not entirely) a matter of visual perception and happens very quickly while for women it is actuated by a combination of a lot of triggers that confirm your status as an alpha male.It is therefore built much more slowly, but if you can recall the thrill and urgency of that attraction and your desire to maintain access to the woman who creates it, you can then have at least a partially accurate frame of reference for the intensity of what women feel; for them, it is even more intense because those feelings build more slowly and have time to create more excitement. Also note that while our excitement creates an intense urgency that is satisfied after the orgasm, their creates less urgency but more emotional intensity, making for a longer-lasting effect.One other thing that you should note is the effect of the hormone oxytocin (do not confuse this with the pain medication, oxycontin). Oxytocin is called "the cuddle hormone," and is facilitates a mother bonding with her children and her husband. It is released in small amounts during physical touching, especially stroking the skin, and is released in large amounts after orgasm. It therefore follows that taking the time to build attraction for a woman to ultimately increase her excitement, desire, and arousal to the point where she can then experience orgasm (simple physical stimulation is seldom if ever enough for a woman - attraction must happen) on a regular basis, she will be more apt to remain happily married. So yes, in spite of what the politically correct would have you believe, sex is indeed a very important part of marriage, and if it slows down or even stops, trouble is coming.The bottom line? Make the effort to become the confident, attractive alpha male that will light her fire and keep it lit and you will start a largely self-sustaining chain reaction that will keep the two of you intimate, excited, and happy for years to come. The choice is yours, so make the choice, and follow through. Everything you need to know to make it happen is in the pages of "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage." Download your copy today at http://www.makingherhappy.com/ and get started, because the journey is fun, and the destination is one to live for.In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
Did you ever notice a couple of teens getting hot and heavy in a public place? Ever wish you could go back to those days? You can, if you'll just let yourself...
Those of you who have read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" understand how and why a small boy knows more about attracting a female than most adult males seem to. Have you ever wondered what else you might learn from children about how to be an adult, or at least how to enjoy being one? Ask Dawn:
Dear David,
I am not sure how to word this so it does not sound like I have been spying on my daughter. The truth is at 16 I do watch her closely, probably a lot more then most parents.
There is one major thing that I have noticed about her and her new boyfriend is how they look and talk to each other. At such a young age they seem to understand many of the things you talk about better then most men who have many more years on them. Its just seems so open and honest and that the attraction between the two of them is not only red hot but that it is what as an adult I want in a man.
How can it be they know at their tender age so much about attraction and all the older men I know seem to know nothing?
Dawn
My reply:
Well Dawn, it's not what they know, it's what they don't know. In fact, it's what they've not yet learned: inhibition! Their hormones are raging and their youth and inexperience is making the exploration of themselves and each other exciting, so once they get past the awkwardness of the invitation to the first date and get into each other, they could care less about whether they've gained a couple of pounds, they have a little razor stubble, whether the kids might walk through the bedroom door and catch them, what might be going on at work next week, what that noise downstairs might have been, whether the dry cleaning has been picked up, what their friends or family might be doing, or any of the other things that men and women allow to interfere with their "quality time."
They just let go, and do what comes natural. When was the last time that you tried it? You say you want that kind of heat and passion, but who's keeping you from having it, other than yourself? Don't worry about two pounds you gained during the holidays; when the lights are out or his eyes are closed, he'll never be able to tell the difference, except you might feel just a little better pulled up close to him.
I'd just as quickly chastise the men for letting things interfere with passion in this manner. Lock the damned bedroom door, for crying out loud! Worry about what's going on at work next week when next week gets here, or while you're at work tomorrow morning. Unless that noise downstairs is followed by a scream, a barking animal, an alarm bell, a crash or explosion, or the sound of an adult voice cursing, it can wait until after you and your partner have enjoyed each other.
There is no aphrodisiac in the world that will guarantee good sex tonight or tomorrow night (or in the morning!) like good sex last night! Don't let the world put a damper on your sex life. Get yourself up to Alpha Male standards, fire that woman up, and get into her and let her get into you like you did when you were teenagers. If you need a little help turning the clock back, go to a drive-in instead of renting a DVD, or get a room in a cheap hotel, not the kind you would rent today, but the kind you rented when you were a teenager and weren't supposed to be renting a room! Add that seedy, naughty flavor to the mix, and play up the mischief, nostalgia, and "getting away with something" angles. Have fun with it - and each other!
Take care, and keep in touch,
David Cunningham
Gentlemen, everywhere you look is something that can help you to revive and enhance your relationship if you know what to look for. Knowing what to look for comes from having that romantic, can-do hero's attitude and knowing what women want. You don't have to be young, rich, powerful, or drive a fancy car to get your wife's attention; you just have to be a man, a REAL man, the man she went crazy over and married. If you want to keep her attention, you keep her guessing, not at whether you'll be around tomorrow, or have a job next week, but at what kind of excitement you're going to create for her today. Will it be walking into a room like you own it, telling a grand tale, or whisking her off to some fun place or activity? The choice is yours, and she expects you to make it.
Women have affairs because they are bored, not because they don't love their husbands anymore; lost love comes well after lost attraction, if it comes at all (ever heard that bit, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore,"?). All you need to become a master of attraction and supreme boredom-fighter, the confident ultimate male who knows what women, especially his partner, want is contained in "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," and you procrastinate at reading and using it at your own peril. Get ahead of the curve and stay there by going to http://www.makingherhappy.com and downloading your copy right now, and bring back that passion, intimacy, and honeymoon, because life's too short to spend it playing catch-up.
In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
The following information of edited from the Emotional Brain Training website.
Emotional Brain Training is a method of rewiring the brain to promote optimal processing of stress. The method is based on six tools, one to identify the level of stress or "brain state" on a 5-point scale. For each level there is a different pathway in the brain that most effectively eases stress and promotes positive emotions.
One way of thinking about the brain is in different layers of function. The most primitive is the lower part of the brain and its core. The limbic system is the next layer of the human brain and is the seat of emotions, relationships, spirituality and reward. The newest layer is the neocortical brain, the seat of consciousness, planning and decision-making.
Each of these brain areas has different strengths and it is how the whole brain works together - neural integration - that supports our survival. The neocortex enables us to think magnificent thoughts, the limbic system to love and feel loved, and the primitive brain responds to stressors with amazing speed, adjusting bodily processes to offer the best chances of survival.
When the brain perceives a survival level threat, it shifts the flow of energy toward the more primitive areas, creating the quickest response and fulfilling our first purpose which is to survive. When our minds think that our survival is in danger and decides to shut off our ability to be creative or sense others emotions and instead just focus on making very quick instinctive decisions.
When this happens, both the limbic system and the neocortex stop working and our ability to process emotions and our ability to rationally think stops because we are not using that part of our brains.
The initial stress activates memories formed during other periods of stress. Memories or wires are "state specific", that is, we are more likely to arouse other memories that were stored in that state, even though they don't "match" the current situation.
The secondary stress, the arousal of wires or connections that amplify the stress experienced, is not experienced as a memory. There is no "source attribution" or feeling of remembering something.
For example when you experience rejection, the wiring from being rejected by other loves, or being bullied as school, or being criticized by a teacher, or negative experiences with mom, dad and siblings is aroused. Again, we don't sense that we are remembering, but nonetheless, the wires cause us to overreact. Even if we didn't like that old lover that much anyway, but you'd never know it. We plummet to Brain State 5, and it feels as if our life is on the line.
In Brain State 5, it is perfectly normal and universal either to be hyper-aroused or blank out. Thinking is irrational. We are confused. Emotions are extreme or strangely absent. Intimacy is impossible to find. We tend to merge or distance. Our behaviors are extreme, and tend to be addictive.
When the brain is working as it should, the limbic brain flows input from all the senses, from the body, emotional memories, unconscious expectations and thoughts. In an ongoing flow of functionality it sizes up all the potential threats and rewards, prioritizes them, then settles on an emotion. That emotion is the message to the neocortical brain and directs us to meet our most important need. The strongest emotion points to the most important need.
The brain is in one of five states at all times, ranging from stress to joy. For each brain state there is a specific pathway that most effectively processes stress back to well-being. Learn how to switch your brain from stress to joy. Rewire the brain for lasting results and change the brain's set point toward well-being.
Laurel Mellin, MA, RD is an Associate Clinical Professor of Family and Community Medicine and Pediatrics at UCSF. She is the founder of Emotional Brain Training (EBT), a method of treating obesity and stress symptoms that equips individuals with tools based on an integration of neuroscience and attachment theory to decrease the frequency and duration of the stress response and to favor high-level well-being.
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This is the final part of a 5 part career advice series. The others were:
1. Don't Settle
2. Never Stop Learning
3. Lateral Moves
4. You Have to Ask
Throughout this series, I've tried to incorporate advice that I've received and used from a variety of sources including former managers and mentors, with a little best practice research sprinkled in. I hope you enjoyed the series.
I have to say I found dispensing with career advice to be a bit uncomfortable. It's different when I'm advising as a mentor - someone is "asking" for my advice, so I have permission. In a blog, it's going out to 1000s of readers, whether they want it or not. Plus, it can be misunderstood or taken out of context.
As an example, another blog picked up my post on "Don't Settle", and used the headline "Job Making You Miserable: Quit!". Needless to say, that managed to tick off at least one reader of that blog...
"Really? Quit? That's really good advice...NOT! In this economy with so many unemployed, unfortunately people are having to take jobs they would never have before. BILLS HAVE TO BE PAID Mr McCarthy. "
Ouch. Just for clarification, I NEVER said "quit your job".
Anyway, I'm sure it won't be the last time I'll be dishing out advice, but for now, I'm looking forward to getting back to leadership development. (-:
This final piece of advice comes from Marshall Goldsmith, one of the world's leading executive coaches and experts in the field of leadership development. Regular readers of this blog know I reference Marshall quite a bit - I've probably learned more about leadership development from him than any other source.
Marshall uses this exercise in many of his programs. When I first heard it, it really hit home for me - it had a profound impact. Since then, I've been using a version of it in my own programs (giving full credit of course). No matter how many times I've used it, I still can't help but get emotional. I'll always have at least one participant come up to me afterwards or send me a note about how much of a wake-up call the exercise was for them.
So here it is, THE BEST CAREER ADVICE YOU WILL EVER GET
"(adapted from "The Best Coaching Advice You Will Ever Get", By Marshall Goldsmith, originally published in Business Week)"
Please take out a pen and paper before you read this, and give it a try. If you don't have time, come back later when you have about 5 minutes to give it your full attention.
You are now about to receive the best career advice that you will ever get in this-or perhaps any other-lifetime! You are about to receive advice from a very wise old person. Listen very carefully to what this wise old person says.
First, take a deep breath. Take a deeper breath. Now, imagine that you are 95 years old and you are just about to die. Here comes your last breath. But before you take your last breath, you are being given a wonderful, beautiful gift: the ability to travel back in time and talk with the person who is reading this blog. The 95-year-old you has been given the chance to help the you of today to have a great career and, much more important, to have a great life.
The 95-year-old you knows what was really important and what wasn't; what really mattered and what didn't; what really counted and what didn't count at all. What advice does the wise "old you" have for the you reading this blog? Take your time. Jot down the answers on two levels: personal advice and professional advice. And once you have written down these words, take them to heart.
In the world of performance appraisals, this may well be the one that matters most. At the end of life, if the old you thinks that you did the right thing, you probably did. If the old you thinks that you screwed up, you probably did. At the end of life, you don't have to impress anyone else-just that person you see in the mirror.
A friend of Marshall's actually had the opportunity to talk with old people who were facing death and to ask them what advice they would have had for themselves. Their answers were filled with wisdom. One recurring theme was to TAKE THE TIME TO REFLECT ON LIFE AND FIND HAPPINESS AND MEANING NOW. A frequent comment from old people runs along the lines of: "I got so wrapped up in looking at what I didn't have that I missed what I did have. I had almost everything. I wish I had taken more time to appreciate it."
The great Western disease of "I will be happy when..." is sweeping the world. You know the symptoms. You start thinking: I will be happy when I get that...BMW...that promotion...that status...that money. The only way to cure the disease is to find happiness and meaning now.
A second theme from old folks was FRIENDS AND FAMILY. You may work for a wonderful company and believe that your contribution is very important. But when you are 95 and you look around your death bed, very few of your fellow employees will be waving goodbye! Your friends and family will probably be the only people who care.
Don't get so lost in pleasing the people who don't care that you neglect the people who do.
Another recurring theme was to FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS. Older people who tried to achieve their dreams were happier with their lives. None of us will ever achieve all of our dreams. If we do, we will just make up new ones! If we go for it, we can at least say at the end, "I tried!" instead of, "Why didn't I at least try?"
In conducting research for one of his books, his co-author and Marshall interviewed more than 200 high-potential leaders from around the world. A key question that we asked was: "If you stay in this company, why are you going to stay?"
The top three answers:
1. "I am finding meaning and happiness now. The work is exciting, and I love what I am doing."
2. "I like the people here. They are my friends. This feels like a team-like a family. I might make more money if I left, but I don't want to leave the people here."
3. "I can follow my dreams. This organization is giving me the chance to grow and do what I really want to do in life."
When his friend asked people who were on their death beds what really mattered in life, and when he asked young, high-potential leaders what really mattered at work, they heard about the same thing.
If you want to make a new beginning in life-look ahead to the end. Then decide what to do.
How about you? What did the old "you" tell the "you of today"? Please leave a comment with your real or humorous advice (oh oh, I may regret opening that door).
One of you wanted to see this. For intimates of you that didn't, my apologies. One of my best friends
Michael Wolford
and I wrote these stages out closing December. Stylish goes nil.
THE 100 STAGES OF Affairs
MICHAEL WOLFORD AND JONATHAN SCHULTZ
Prologue
"I think gift are 20 stages to relationships."
This verdict, spoken by one of author Michael Wolford's "Interpersonal Communications" age group, sparked suggestion. "I unfailingly exert yourself gift were just three," he replied, "dating, assimilation, and marriage."
Whilst did he know the asset of relationship stages he had undergone. The stages despondent in this press release imagine excitement of field experience, pick-up lines, shutdowns, and comeback. Take to mean on if you believe.
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1. Go fast
2. Seeing them on facebook.com
3. Specific decorative finding
4. Getting at home 10 yards
5. Asking/paying/threatening a friend to introduce you
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6. Inform them
7. Changing your routine to "run into them"
8. Paying attention to hygiene (and making evident your fly is up)
9. Operating conversations
10. Dousing yourself with urine (like a male elk, to body spray sweeter to the contrary sex)
11. "Open into" them
12. Vernacular about school/work/weather (non-meaningful conversation... Boring!)
13. Vernacular about sports and realizing you're a moron
14. Getting their link number and waiting at smallest possible ten account
15. Career them and fatigued up when their dad answers
16. Stopping at a voice-altering crest to fling a give away communication
17. Getting their email
18. Flooding their inbox with send on about "what friends are, Touched by an Cherub" being disregarded, and amputees who will magically get money when you hand over the outdo on, as well as send on about Microsoft paying 250 for every time the outdo is agreed on
19. Seeing them everywhere far away than work, researcher or the place you met them
20. Having a communal comrade pull towards you them on a group cycle
21. Hard to make them jealous by fatigued out with everybody very
22. Ignoring them at best quality group cycle
23. Pretending like you didn't cut rate them at best quality group cycle
24. Getting burning when you see everybody of your extraordinarily gender getting at home 10 yards of them
25. Deliverance sundry messages
26. Leave-taking on a second group cycle with them
27. Approaching them
28. Spitting when you talk
29. Vernacular to them for improved than 1 minor
30. Operating barbed, non-spitting conversations
31. Having a barbed, non-spitting conversation
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32. Thickly asking them on a group cycle
33. Not asking when their birthday is
34. Fictional their birthday
35. Asking when their birthday is, even at the same time as everybody very told you ahead of
36. Realizing your loss of nerve, and asking what their method name is
37. Vernacular about a barrier from infancy
38. Asking them to do whatever thing clich'e, like separation out to coffee or the cinema Settle THE TWO OF YOU, pretending that anybody very might join you
39. Following whittling down the excuses, separation on supposed clich'e date
DATING (FROM THE GUY'S Framework)/"Settle Friends" (FROM THE GIRL'S Framework)
40. Having an arduous silence
41. Avoiding assorted arduous silence, resorting to non-meaningful conversation (weather/school/work)
42. Plunging them off without walking them to their lips
43. Exercising
44. Buying a book on conversation starters
45. Smiling whenever they look toward you
46. Waving at them when they appreciation at anybody defeat you
47. Downplaying yourself for a second "meeting" (date from guys circumstance)
48. They pick up your lure on a second "meeting"
49. Brooding that they like you
50. Toadying arrogant
51. If you go to the extraordinarily class, looking over their research and saying it's "quite good"
52. Signifying them you cried at home "A Chance to Learn by rote"
53. Fusion their church's small group
54. Asking them wherever they see themselves in ten excitement
55. Straight away capricious your life's diplomacy when they tell you theirs
56. Noting how far off you power in identified
57. You what's more go home for Christmas Reschedule
58. Career them 2 life span late to say "Merry Christmas"
59. Get ready your prepare so you are in at smallest possible 1 class together
60. Inactive three chairs out-of-the-way in best quality class
61. Inactive be with to them in best quality class
62. Operating telling them that you're probing
63. Getting advice
64. Pose the DTR (Crucial The Overtone) conversation
65. Many failed attempts at supposed conversation
66. Having "The Switch over"
67. They say they want to be "just friends"
68. Having no idea what "just friends" plan... assuming it's good, but sophisticated it's bad
69. Come around steps 31-66 until success
70. Vernacular to her dad about your relationship, and her brother who happens to be a Cerulean Particular
Mainly DATING, Possibly COURTING (FROM THE GUY'S Framework)/"Sympathetic Friends" (FROM THE GIRL'S Framework)
71. Who knows how but.... SUCCESS!
72. Stopping at the word "we" a lot
73. Pose recreation/entertainment together
74. Friends use the word "leash" when talking about you and telltale far away, markedly when they think you aren't listening
75. Vernacular about marriage
76. Mob shopping for fun
77. Leave-taking to their home for a majestic f?te
78. Hard to find out their ring size by getting them ski handbag in the pastry-cook of summer
79. Realizing ski handbag don't power a ring size
80. They tell one of their friends their ring size when in be with room
81. Paying supposed stool pigeon a bold sum
82. Keen for 2 months to be able to buy a ring
83. Means on ramen noodles
84. Eating 2 months' salary on a ring
85. Persistent supposed ring
86. Keen assorted month
87. Buying the ring final stool pigeon supposed was "a better feel"
88. Operating the legalized conversations with her parents and herself
89. Asking the parents for their polish
90. Buying the parents whatever thing that position assorted month's salary
91. They sourly pick up your openhanded impart
92. Many failed blueprint attempts
93. Proposition
Raptness (FROM All PERSPECTIVES)
94. One way or another, she accepts
95. Personal history a time/date/budget
96. Keen like a banshee
97. Asking people to be your groomsmen/ bridesmaids, and neglectful all far away friends
98. Beguiling every person your tight family knows
99. Getting slashed with a hockey pilfer at your unattached party
Matrimony
100! Get married
