Great Relationships And Marriage Why Making Her Happy Makes Everybody Happy

The explanation of yesterday's promised "thunderbolt" - Why making her happy makes everybody happy, and what you can easily do to make it happen, automatically and consistently so that BOTH OF YOU enjoy it.For those who had the bad fortune to miss yesterday's edition, go back and read it, because it was good and because it sets up today's edition. We've all heard "If mama ain't happy, nobody's happy," unless some of us have been living under a rock, and we're all pretty well convinced that it's a universal truth that will never be disproved. However, have you ever thought about the converse?"IF MAMA IS HAPPY, EVERYBODY'S HAPPY!"Why would I suggest such a thing? It's the core of everything I've been talking about for a very good reason: things really work this way in the real world. Right now, I'm going to help you accept and understand this by explaining why they work this way.It can be downright shocking when you realize how much about how we relate depends upon or is derived from this model (discussed in yesterday's edition, so once again, if you've not read it, go back and do so before continuing here) of "men are hunters, women are gatherers."In case you're not familiar with basic anthropology, here's the super-short summary: in the earliest days of human existence, before agriculture and for some time after the development of agriculture, men hunted for meat and women gathered fruits, nuts, roots, etc. and raised the children; later, women most likely developed agriculture to have a more convenient food supply. One must remember that during this time, 90% or more of a person's time was spent in securing a food supply.We're talking about a long, long time here, during which women were together, gathering and later farming in groups and learning to communicate, while men were out hunting alone or in small groups that kept very quiet to keep from scaring the game. These activities caused women to evolve to be genetically "wired" to be more social and nurturing, and have more sophisticated communications skills due to their activities causing the more rapid and full development of the bridge between the left and right hemispheres of the brain, called the "corpus callosum," and the left hemisphere of the brain to develop more densely than in men.They also developed a system of safeguards against nurturing the wrong kind of man. There are biological triggers that turn on this behavior when a woman sees strong alpha male behavior, which causes her to nurture in a manner appropriate to a mate, and in the presence of children and for many, child-like behavior, such as a middle-aged adolescent, which causes her to nurture as would be appropriate for a mother, taking charge of the man's life and affairs and attempting to save him in a codependent relationship. So since the process is biological and not logical, it is very difficult for a woman to resist and unfortunately, not foolproof; she can end up nurturing a man who is bad for her, like an alpha male with psychopathic tendencies who beats her, or a middle-aged adolescent with sociopathic tendencies who sucks her dry and moves on to his next host.Whether you accept evolution as the cause of this difference or not, the difference is there, it's consistent, and the behavior it creates is consistent; it's what creates the feminine and masculine aspects of personality and communication skills and style."NOW, THE BIG QUESTION: WHAT DOES THIS MEAN TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP?"Generally speaking, women are naturally social, nurturing, and sensitive; men are not so much nurturing as protective. We are naturally loners; even when we're in groups we tend to act competitively instead of socially and cooperatively. We are combatants; we tend to deal with problems by trying to overpower them or through other competitive needs, not through any nurturing means, even when it would mean converting an enemy to a friend. And let's face it, a lot of men are finding out the hard way that women's natural skill in non-verbal communication makes them superior negotiators and poker players in a great many male-female match-ups.So how can you put this to work for you?This is the great secret of relationships that is really no secret at all. If a man will make the effort to create attraction for his female partner, her response will automatically be to respond with excitement, sensitivity, nurturing, and attractive behavior toward him. She won't have to put any effort into it, because it will all be triggered by her attraction. It's biological, and therefore not only automatic, but unavoidable (which is what gets women in trouble with predatory users, abusers, and losers who have mastered attraction tactics and use it mercilessly to attract and hold their victims.) Why?To fully understand and accept this, you must understand the intensity of attraction. The only good way I can explain this to men is to call your attention to what happens when you start feeling intense attraction, when you reach that point where you MUST have sex with a woman and then MUST experience orgasm with her. It is different for women in that attraction for us is mostly (but not entirely) a matter of visual perception and happens very quickly while for women it is actuated by a combination of a lot of triggers that confirm your status as an alpha male.It is therefore built much more slowly, but if you can recall the thrill and urgency of that attraction and your desire to maintain access to the woman who creates it, you can then have at least a partially accurate frame of reference for the intensity of what women feel; for them, it is even more intense because those feelings build more slowly and have time to create more excitement. Also note that while our excitement creates an intense urgency that is satisfied after the orgasm, their creates less urgency but more emotional intensity, making for a longer-lasting effect.One other thing that you should note is the effect of the hormone oxytocin (do not confuse this with the pain medication, oxycontin). Oxytocin is called "the cuddle hormone," and is facilitates a mother bonding with her children and her husband. It is released in small amounts during physical touching, especially stroking the skin, and is released in large amounts after orgasm. It therefore follows that taking the time to build attraction for a woman to ultimately increase her excitement, desire, and arousal to the point where she can then experience orgasm (simple physical stimulation is seldom if ever enough for a woman - attraction must happen) on a regular basis, she will be more apt to remain happily married. So yes, in spite of what the politically correct would have you believe, sex is indeed a very important part of marriage, and if it slows down or even stops, trouble is coming.The bottom line? Make the effort to become the confident, attractive alpha male that will light her fire and keep it lit and you will start a largely self-sustaining chain reaction that will keep the two of you intimate, excited, and happy for years to come. The choice is yours, so make the choice, and follow through. Everything you need to know to make it happen is in the pages of "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage." Download your copy today at http://www.makingherhappy.com/ and get started, because the journey is fun, and the destination is one to live for.In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham

What Can Your Kids Teach You About Building A Great Relationship And Marriage

Did you ever notice a couple of teens getting hot and heavy in a public place? Ever wish you could go back to those days? You can, if you'll just let yourself...

Those of you who have read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" understand how and why a small boy knows more about attracting a female than most adult males seem to. Have you ever wondered what else you might learn from children about how to be an adult, or at least how to enjoy being one? Ask Dawn:

Dear David,

I am not sure how to word this so it does not sound like I have been spying on my daughter. The truth is at 16 I do watch her closely, probably a lot more then most parents.

There is one major thing that I have noticed about her and her new boyfriend is how they look and talk to each other. At such a young age they seem to understand many of the things you talk about better then most men who have many more years on them. Its just seems so open and honest and that the attraction between the two of them is not only red hot but that it is what as an adult I want in a man.

How can it be they know at their tender age so much about attraction and all the older men I know seem to know nothing?

Dawn

My reply:

Well Dawn, it's not what they know, it's what they don't know. In fact, it's what they've not yet learned: inhibition! Their hormones are raging and their youth and inexperience is making the exploration of themselves and each other exciting, so once they get past the awkwardness of the invitation to the first date and get into each other, they could care less about whether they've gained a couple of pounds, they have a little razor stubble, whether the kids might walk through the bedroom door and catch them, what might be going on at work next week, what that noise downstairs might have been, whether the dry cleaning has been picked up, what their friends or family might be doing, or any of the other things that men and women allow to interfere with their "quality time."

They just let go, and do what comes natural. When was the last time that you tried it? You say you want that kind of heat and passion, but who's keeping you from having it, other than yourself? Don't worry about two pounds you gained during the holidays; when the lights are out or his eyes are closed, he'll never be able to tell the difference, except you might feel just a little better pulled up close to him.

I'd just as quickly chastise the men for letting things interfere with passion in this manner. Lock the damned bedroom door, for crying out loud! Worry about what's going on at work next week when next week gets here, or while you're at work tomorrow morning. Unless that noise downstairs is followed by a scream, a barking animal, an alarm bell, a crash or explosion, or the sound of an adult voice cursing, it can wait until after you and your partner have enjoyed each other.

There is no aphrodisiac in the world that will guarantee good sex tonight or tomorrow night (or in the morning!) like good sex last night! Don't let the world put a damper on your sex life. Get yourself up to Alpha Male standards, fire that woman up, and get into her and let her get into you like you did when you were teenagers. If you need a little help turning the clock back, go to a drive-in instead of renting a DVD, or get a room in a cheap hotel, not the kind you would rent today, but the kind you rented when you were a teenager and weren't supposed to be renting a room! Add that seedy, naughty flavor to the mix, and play up the mischief, nostalgia, and "getting away with something" angles. Have fun with it - and each other!

Take care, and keep in touch,

David Cunningham

Gentlemen, everywhere you look is something that can help you to revive and enhance your relationship if you know what to look for. Knowing what to look for comes from having that romantic, can-do hero's attitude and knowing what women want. You don't have to be young, rich, powerful, or drive a fancy car to get your wife's attention; you just have to be a man, a REAL man, the man she went crazy over and married. If you want to keep her attention, you keep her guessing, not at whether you'll be around tomorrow, or have a job next week, but at what kind of excitement you're going to create for her today. Will it be walking into a room like you own it, telling a grand tale, or whisking her off to some fun place or activity? The choice is yours, and she expects you to make it.

Women have affairs because they are bored, not because they don't love their husbands anymore; lost love comes well after lost attraction, if it comes at all (ever heard that bit, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore,"?). All you need to become a master of attraction and supreme boredom-fighter, the confident ultimate male who knows what women, especially his partner, want is contained in "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," and you procrastinate at reading and using it at your own peril. Get ahead of the curve and stay there by going to http://www.makingherhappy.com and downloading your copy right now, and bring back that passion, intimacy, and honeymoon, because life's too short to spend it playing catch-up.

In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!

David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham

What Is Emotional Brain Training

The following information of edited from the Emotional Brain Training website.

Emotional Brain Training is a method of rewiring the brain to promote optimal processing of stress. The method is based on six tools, one to identify the level of stress or "brain state" on a 5-point scale. For each level there is a different pathway in the brain that most effectively eases stress and promotes positive emotions.

One way of thinking about the brain is in different layers of function. The most primitive is the lower part of the brain and its core. The limbic system is the next layer of the human brain and is the seat of emotions, relationships, spirituality and reward. The newest layer is the neocortical brain, the seat of consciousness, planning and decision-making.

Each of these brain areas has different strengths and it is how the whole brain works together - neural integration - that supports our survival. The neocortex enables us to think magnificent thoughts, the limbic system to love and feel loved, and the primitive brain responds to stressors with amazing speed, adjusting bodily processes to offer the best chances of survival.

When the brain perceives a survival level threat, it shifts the flow of energy toward the more primitive areas, creating the quickest response and fulfilling our first purpose which is to survive. When our minds think that our survival is in danger and decides to shut off our ability to be creative or sense others emotions and instead just focus on making very quick instinctive decisions.

When this happens, both the limbic system and the neocortex stop working and our ability to process emotions and our ability to rationally think stops because we are not using that part of our brains.

The initial stress activates memories formed during other periods of stress. Memories or wires are "state specific", that is, we are more likely to arouse other memories that were stored in that state, even though they don't "match" the current situation.

The secondary stress, the arousal of wires or connections that amplify the stress experienced, is not experienced as a memory. There is no "source attribution" or feeling of remembering something.

For example when you experience rejection, the wiring from being rejected by other loves, or being bullied as school, or being criticized by a teacher, or negative experiences with mom, dad and siblings is aroused. Again, we don't sense that we are remembering, but nonetheless, the wires cause us to overreact. Even if we didn't like that old lover that much anyway, but you'd never know it. We plummet to Brain State 5, and it feels as if our life is on the line.

In Brain State 5, it is perfectly normal and universal either to be hyper-aroused or blank out. Thinking is irrational. We are confused. Emotions are extreme or strangely absent. Intimacy is impossible to find. We tend to merge or distance. Our behaviors are extreme, and tend to be addictive.

When the brain is working as it should, the limbic brain flows input from all the senses, from the body, emotional memories, unconscious expectations and thoughts. In an ongoing flow of functionality it sizes up all the potential threats and rewards, prioritizes them, then settles on an emotion. That emotion is the message to the neocortical brain and directs us to meet our most important need. The strongest emotion points to the most important need.

The brain is in one of five states at all times, ranging from stress to joy. For each brain state there is a specific pathway that most effectively processes stress back to well-being. Learn how to switch your brain from stress to joy. Rewire the brain for lasting results and change the brain's set point toward well-being.

Laurel Mellin, MA, RD is an Associate Clinical Professor of Family and Community Medicine and Pediatrics at UCSF. She is the founder of Emotional Brain Training (EBT), a method of treating obesity and stress symptoms that equips individuals with tools based on an integration of neuroscience and attachment theory to decrease the frequency and duration of the stress response and to favor high-level well-being.

Giving Up The Ghost

A long time ago you're beginning out in a new relationship, acquaint with can be a number of hurdles to miserable. You're a night person; he's up and at 'em at 7 a.m. You like to go camping and hiking; he'd prefer the big trade expo.

But what do you being you catch sight of that your new put your feet up can't stop talking about his ex?

Belief out that the person you're dating still has feelings for their old lover is effective hard. And if they're talking about them in have an advantage of you (whether it's good "or" bad), you show to ask yourself if that's what's effective leaving on. I've been in this situation beforehand. And I can tell, the guy effective popular to move on. Pleasant to end family old feelings to me. But her name was brought up just what time too recurrently.

That is to say, he brought up her name exclusive than what time.

The same as if your put your feet up continues to brings up "her" name, or totally starts talking about his "ex" on exclusive than one perform, she's confidently on his mind. In fact, attempts to depersonalize the ex by ability her "the ex" (or everything even less flattering) are generally harder to bear; you any differentiate who you are talking about, without saying her name. The same as she's a part of your relationship now.

It's a relationship atmosphere that just won't go away.

Difficult to move electronic message in a relationship that's ethereal by old ghosts is hard. If not dated. Rarely if you hypothesize that your lover still has feelings for this person from their prior.

I don't mean that people shouldn't be "permitted" to do by their old relationships. They confidently should do that. It's like a good turn of pipe beforehand you can fall in love. But what time you've had that speech, it doesn't need to come up again.

It's not at all different to find and fall in love with someone who has clutch with someone extremely or who has been divorced. It's generally unsurprisingly and it shouldn't be a problem in a new relationship. Complaints about being someone was seeming to pick someone up or how they were late with alimony expenditure are hackneyed. In various ways, it's generally like a surgical procedure friendship that went out of line.

But lasting to talk about someone, unconstrained of "surgical procedure," may notice that acquaint with are darker armed forces at work. A ethereal lover, who ruminates ad infinitum about what their ex is thinking, or why they make crystal-clear life choices, is not everything that you should show to punch on.

An exorcism, or maybe a sexorcism, is confidently in order being you're battling the atmosphere of relationships prior. I think the best way to mistreat this situation is to personality the ghosts directly, and to ask vacant if they still show feelings for their ex. The best "time" to ask this question is at once agree with any sort of go on about the ex. The same as you don't show to say much. They've earlier than held it all. A thorough lover, who wants to move on, will understand, to move on, they show to let go.

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Self Care For Winter Months Part Two Emotional Needs

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Career Advice Part 5 The Best Career Advice You Will Ever Get

This is the final part of a 5 part career advice series. The others were:

1. Don't Settle

2. Never Stop Learning

3. Lateral Moves

4. You Have to Ask

Throughout this series, I've tried to incorporate advice that I've received and used from a variety of sources including former managers and mentors, with a little best practice research sprinkled in. I hope you enjoyed the series.

I have to say I found dispensing with career advice to be a bit uncomfortable. It's different when I'm advising as a mentor - someone is "asking" for my advice, so I have permission. In a blog, it's going out to 1000s of readers, whether they want it or not. Plus, it can be misunderstood or taken out of context.

As an example, another blog picked up my post on "Don't Settle", and used the headline "Job Making You Miserable: Quit!". Needless to say, that managed to tick off at least one reader of that blog...

"Really? Quit? That's really good advice...NOT! In this economy with so many unemployed, unfortunately people are having to take jobs they would never have before. BILLS HAVE TO BE PAID Mr McCarthy. "

Ouch. Just for clarification, I NEVER said "quit your job".

Anyway, I'm sure it won't be the last time I'll be dishing out advice, but for now, I'm looking forward to getting back to leadership development. (-:

This final piece of advice comes from Marshall Goldsmith, one of the world's leading executive coaches and experts in the field of leadership development. Regular readers of this blog know I reference Marshall quite a bit - I've probably learned more about leadership development from him than any other source.

Marshall uses this exercise in many of his programs. When I first heard it, it really hit home for me - it had a profound impact. Since then, I've been using a version of it in my own programs (giving full credit of course). No matter how many times I've used it, I still can't help but get emotional. I'll always have at least one participant come up to me afterwards or send me a note about how much of a wake-up call the exercise was for them.

So here it is, THE BEST CAREER ADVICE YOU WILL EVER GET

"(adapted from "The Best Coaching Advice You Will Ever Get", By Marshall Goldsmith, originally published in Business Week)"

Please take out a pen and paper before you read this, and give it a try. If you don't have time, come back later when you have about 5 minutes to give it your full attention.

You are now about to receive the best career advice that you will ever get in this-or perhaps any other-lifetime! You are about to receive advice from a very wise old person. Listen very carefully to what this wise old person says.

First, take a deep breath. Take a deeper breath. Now, imagine that you are 95 years old and you are just about to die. Here comes your last breath. But before you take your last breath, you are being given a wonderful, beautiful gift: the ability to travel back in time and talk with the person who is reading this blog. The 95-year-old you has been given the chance to help the you of today to have a great career and, much more important, to have a great life.

The 95-year-old you knows what was really important and what wasn't; what really mattered and what didn't; what really counted and what didn't count at all. What advice does the wise "old you" have for the you reading this blog? Take your time. Jot down the answers on two levels: personal advice and professional advice. And once you have written down these words, take them to heart.

In the world of performance appraisals, this may well be the one that matters most. At the end of life, if the old you thinks that you did the right thing, you probably did. If the old you thinks that you screwed up, you probably did. At the end of life, you don't have to impress anyone else-just that person you see in the mirror.

A friend of Marshall's actually had the opportunity to talk with old people who were facing death and to ask them what advice they would have had for themselves. Their answers were filled with wisdom. One recurring theme was to TAKE THE TIME TO REFLECT ON LIFE AND FIND HAPPINESS AND MEANING NOW. A frequent comment from old people runs along the lines of: "I got so wrapped up in looking at what I didn't have that I missed what I did have. I had almost everything. I wish I had taken more time to appreciate it."

The great Western disease of "I will be happy when..." is sweeping the world. You know the symptoms. You start thinking: I will be happy when I get that...BMW...that promotion...that status...that money. The only way to cure the disease is to find happiness and meaning now.

A second theme from old folks was FRIENDS AND FAMILY. You may work for a wonderful company and believe that your contribution is very important. But when you are 95 and you look around your death bed, very few of your fellow employees will be waving goodbye! Your friends and family will probably be the only people who care.

Don't get so lost in pleasing the people who don't care that you neglect the people who do.

Another recurring theme was to FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS. Older people who tried to achieve their dreams were happier with their lives. None of us will ever achieve all of our dreams. If we do, we will just make up new ones! If we go for it, we can at least say at the end, "I tried!" instead of, "Why didn't I at least try?"

In conducting research for one of his books, his co-author and Marshall interviewed more than 200 high-potential leaders from around the world. A key question that we asked was: "If you stay in this company, why are you going to stay?"

The top three answers:

1. "I am finding meaning and happiness now. The work is exciting, and I love what I am doing."

2. "I like the people here. They are my friends. This feels like a team-like a family. I might make more money if I left, but I don't want to leave the people here."

3. "I can follow my dreams. This organization is giving me the chance to grow and do what I really want to do in life."

When his friend asked people who were on their death beds what really mattered in life, and when he asked young, high-potential leaders what really mattered at work, they heard about the same thing.

If you want to make a new beginning in life-look ahead to the end. Then decide what to do.

How about you? What did the old "you" tell the "you of today"? Please leave a comment with your real or humorous advice (oh oh, I may regret opening that door).

The 100 Stages Of Relationships

One of you wanted to see this. For intimates of you that didn't, my apologies. One of my best friends
Michael Wolford
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THE 100 STAGES OF Affairs

MICHAEL WOLFORD AND JONATHAN SCHULTZ

Prologue

"I think gift are 20 stages to relationships."

This verdict, spoken by one of author Michael Wolford's "Interpersonal Communications" age group, sparked suggestion. "I unfailingly exert yourself gift were just three," he replied, "dating, assimilation, and marriage."

Whilst did he know the asset of relationship stages he had undergone. The stages despondent in this press release imagine excitement of field experience, pick-up lines, shutdowns, and comeback. Take to mean on if you believe.

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1. Go fast

2. Seeing them on facebook.com

3. Specific decorative finding

4. Getting at home 10 yards

5. Asking/paying/threatening a friend to introduce you

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6. Inform them

7. Changing your routine to "run into them"

8. Paying attention to hygiene (and making evident your fly is up)

9. Operating conversations

10. Dousing yourself with urine (like a male elk, to body spray sweeter to the contrary sex)

11. "Open into" them

12. Vernacular about school/work/weather (non-meaningful conversation... Boring!)

13. Vernacular about sports and realizing you're a moron

14. Getting their link number and waiting at smallest possible ten account

15. Career them and fatigued up when their dad answers

16. Stopping at a voice-altering crest to fling a give away communication

17. Getting their email

18. Flooding their inbox with send on about "what friends are, Touched by an Cherub" being disregarded, and amputees who will magically get money when you hand over the outdo on, as well as send on about Microsoft paying 250 for every time the outdo is agreed on

19. Seeing them everywhere far away than work, researcher or the place you met them

20. Having a communal comrade pull towards you them on a group cycle

21. Hard to make them jealous by fatigued out with everybody very

22. Ignoring them at best quality group cycle

23. Pretending like you didn't cut rate them at best quality group cycle

24. Getting burning when you see everybody of your extraordinarily gender getting at home 10 yards of them

25. Deliverance sundry messages

26. Leave-taking on a second group cycle with them

27. Approaching them

28. Spitting when you talk

29. Vernacular to them for improved than 1 minor

30. Operating barbed, non-spitting conversations

31. Having a barbed, non-spitting conversation

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32. Thickly asking them on a group cycle

33. Not asking when their birthday is

34. Fictional their birthday

35. Asking when their birthday is, even at the same time as everybody very told you ahead of

36. Realizing your loss of nerve, and asking what their method name is

37. Vernacular about a barrier from infancy

38. Asking them to do whatever thing clich'e, like separation out to coffee or the cinema Settle THE TWO OF YOU, pretending that anybody very might join you

39. Following whittling down the excuses, separation on supposed clich'e date

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40. Having an arduous silence

41. Avoiding assorted arduous silence, resorting to non-meaningful conversation (weather/school/work)

42. Plunging them off without walking them to their lips

43. Exercising

44. Buying a book on conversation starters

45. Smiling whenever they look toward you

46. Waving at them when they appreciation at anybody defeat you

47. Downplaying yourself for a second "meeting" (date from guys circumstance)

48. They pick up your lure on a second "meeting"

49. Brooding that they like you

50. Toadying arrogant

51. If you go to the extraordinarily class, looking over their research and saying it's "quite good"

52. Signifying them you cried at home "A Chance to Learn by rote"

53. Fusion their church's small group

54. Asking them wherever they see themselves in ten excitement

55. Straight away capricious your life's diplomacy when they tell you theirs

56. Noting how far off you power in identified

57. You what's more go home for Christmas Reschedule

58. Career them 2 life span late to say "Merry Christmas"

59. Get ready your prepare so you are in at smallest possible 1 class together

60. Inactive three chairs out-of-the-way in best quality class

61. Inactive be with to them in best quality class

62. Operating telling them that you're probing

63. Getting advice

64. Pose the DTR (Crucial The Overtone) conversation

65. Many failed attempts at supposed conversation

66. Having "The Switch over"

67. They say they want to be "just friends"

68. Having no idea what "just friends" plan... assuming it's good, but sophisticated it's bad

69. Come around steps 31-66 until success

70. Vernacular to her dad about your relationship, and her brother who happens to be a Cerulean Particular

Mainly DATING, Possibly COURTING (FROM THE GUY'S Framework)/"Sympathetic Friends" (FROM THE GIRL'S Framework)

71. Who knows how but.... SUCCESS!

72. Stopping at the word "we" a lot

73. Pose recreation/entertainment together

74. Friends use the word "leash" when talking about you and telltale far away, markedly when they think you aren't listening

75. Vernacular about marriage

76. Mob shopping for fun

77. Leave-taking to their home for a majestic f?te

78. Hard to find out their ring size by getting them ski handbag in the pastry-cook of summer

79. Realizing ski handbag don't power a ring size

80. They tell one of their friends their ring size when in be with room

81. Paying supposed stool pigeon a bold sum

82. Keen for 2 months to be able to buy a ring

83. Means on ramen noodles

84. Eating 2 months' salary on a ring

85. Persistent supposed ring

86. Keen assorted month

87. Buying the ring final stool pigeon supposed was "a better feel"

88. Operating the legalized conversations with her parents and herself

89. Asking the parents for their polish

90. Buying the parents whatever thing that position assorted month's salary

91. They sourly pick up your openhanded impart

92. Many failed blueprint attempts

93. Proposition

Raptness (FROM All PERSPECTIVES)

94. One way or another, she accepts

95. Personal history a time/date/budget

96. Keen like a banshee

97. Asking people to be your groomsmen/ bridesmaids, and neglectful all far away friends

98. Beguiling every person your tight family knows

99. Getting slashed with a hockey pilfer at your unattached party

Matrimony

100! Get married