That may seem like an obvious statement yet many women fail at romance because they want to believe that men think the same way we do when they clearly don't" been distancing himsel". Case in point: you're watching a sad, mushy movie with your man"sitate to make the necessary change.Take things". You're sitting there crying a river of tears whereas he is showing about the same emotion as he would if he was watching paint dry"eady to talk, you would surely get". The male part of his brain kicks in and says, "Don't cry dude! Don't look like a wuss!"
Most men feel as though showing emotion is a sign of weakness so they often try not to" see you following him li". It's not that they don't have feelings, it's just that they tend to process and show their emotions differently than women do"ttle dignity and just fig". Women are much more apt to wanting to discuss their feelings a lot more than men, so don't feel slighted if your boyfriend or husband doesn't want to share his emotions every single day" him - There's a reason why he ". That's just not how they're made"'ve been breathing down his neck".
Another example of our differences: Women are always concerned with finding the right cards and the perfect gifts for their friends"d be the reason or it could be somethin". Men "never "do this"ore you go crying in front of him, it". Do you really think he's browsing the aisles of Hallmark thinking, "Hmm"m.Ask - Sometimes asking will get you all the ans"...I wonder if Frank would like this card?"
Probably not"ith him.Ask - Sometimes a".
Have you ever seen a man get excited at the prospect of getting flowers or poetry from his girlfriend?
Again, probably not"friend starts acting all weird. Befo".
Also, look at how much women like to shop"you following him like a hound all the time. Give". We buys new clothes a lot when we can afford to whereas most men, unless they're the metro-sexual type, only buy new clothes when their old ones have more holes in them than Swiss cheese"n breathing down his neck a little too much ".
Women bond with our girlfriends by sharing emotions"m his point of view - Rather". Men bond by teasing each other or competing in silly competitions"rying in front of him, it's best to assess his s". When a woman goes through a breakup, her girlfriends are there for her to lean on" the time. Give yourself a little dignity and j". We'll spend hours dissecting our relationships and sharing our feelings, but when a man goes through a breakup, usually the most uplifting thing his friends will say is, "Dude, that sucks"ird. Before you go crying in front of him, "."
Believe it or not, this little phrase is their idea of sharing their feelings" ready to talk, you would surely get yo". To them they have just had a meaningful conversation"uldn't want to see you following him like". Having a beer and watching the game is how they bond"ke a hound all the time. Give yourself a".
Men thrive on competition and are more focused on the journey as opposed to the destination, which is often what women focus on"is wouldn't change the fact that he's distancing ". This is why men compete with each other over everything whether it's playing chess, sports, video games, or taking over corporations" Doom and Gloom then he would surely add up to y". Haven't you ever seen a group of guys competing with each other over something totally stupid?
I recall my best friend's ex-boyfriend and his brother flicking bottle caps at each other for entertainment and to see who could flick the caps the farthest (and these were some of the brighter guys we've known)"e able to improve yoursel".
No matter how smart or successful men are, at the end of the day, they are nothing more than grown up little boys"ready to tell you anything, then just".
Let me share with you a disgusting but humorous story which proves my point"turning into Miss Doom ". Years ago, an old co-worker told me about an incident that happened at his previous job"e. You could be the reas". He told me the tale of when the toilets in the men's room backed up, the male employees had a contest to see who could stay in the bathroom and withstand the stench the longest"o ask. If he's ready to talk, you would s". I looked at him like he was crazy and said, "That's disgusting! Why would you do that?"
He just laughed and said, "What can I say? We're guys!"
Apparently, this is not the first occurrence of something like this"'re at fault, don't hesitate to mak". I recall seeing a popular Southern comedian on TV telling the story of how he found an old gym bag in the garage with old, stinky, unwashed clothes in it"act that he's distancing him". Sure enough, his friends lined up one by one to each take a sniff and gag"e himself, it would still b".
But perhaps my personal favorite moment in male stupidity was back in high school when my best friend's brother tried to light one of his farts on fire but only succeeded in setting the backseat of his pants ablaze" to assess his situati". (I'm not kidding"m you, then something is obviousl".)
So, yeah" fault, don't hesitate"...this is what we are dealing with ladies"confrontation is the last thing". It stands to reason from the stories above that men simply don't think and communicate the same way women do"the reason why he's been distancing himself? If yo". So why on earth would they look at dating and relationships the same way we do?
Many women think that they have to pull out all the stops to get a man's attention"lling to take them - If he told you to make a f". They call him too much, see him all the time, send him gifts and love letters and then get confused when he pulls away because of this"him is to ask. If he's ready to ta". It's because that stuff is what "we" want, not what they want!
Perhaps you've been there" let him be. As soon as he's done wit". You start dating a guy, everything's going great"th you, then be ready to make the necess". You're completely open and giving with your time, but suddenly after a few weeks or few months, he pulls away saying, "I need my space"nt to see you following him like a "."
It's because men process these grand romantic gestures very differently than we do"uation. If he sees you slowly turning into Miss Do". We think it's the greatest thing ever when a man we like gives us flowers or sends us poetry but do that to a man and he thinks, "Oh my god! She's getting so clingy! I need out!"
Case in point: I knew a guy who went all out for his fiance for Valentine's Day"efensive on him.Don't ke". He bought her a brand new radio/CD player for her car (her old one had broken) a beautiful necklace, and surprised her by having lit candles and rose petals everywhere when she came home from work" relationship.Criticisms ". He also wrote a beautiful poem to her in a lovely card"ing him right away, try to analyz". However, a few years before that he dated another girl who was an artist"g to take them - If he told you to". She spent hours decorating a mirror and pillow for him"t keep hounding him - There'". Instead of being touched by this, he was freaked out by it because he thought it was too much"derstand him is to ask. I". Too much?! This from the guy who did all that for Valentine's?
From the woman's perspective she thinks she's winning him over with her thoughtfulness, but from the man's perspective he thinks she's Nutty McNutterton who lives in Crazy Ville"why he's been distan". When we do too much for men, they think we are a "Fatal Attraction" waiting to happen"nt of him, it's best to assess h".
When we get too emotional or try to force them to talk about their feelings all the time, they pull away"vacation, then you'll know what has".
I don't mean to paint the opposite sex as simple-minded or uncaring, I'm just pointing out that they are very different from what most women seem to think"omething else. But this ". Men are not as complicated as we think they are" his self-imposed vacat".
What's important for women to take away from this article is that once they accept that men and women will always have some differences, this will greatly help them in their love lives because they will understand that there are certain things that work well with men and there are certain things that don't"you to make a few changes with you". Accepting that men are very different creatures from us instead of trying to make them be more like us is the key to a successful relationship"es you slowly turning in".
In conclusion, once a woman knows how to speak a man's language, she can then set out to use this to her advantage and get the relationship she's always wanted!
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